One last step to take.
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One last step to take.
Well, D day is close upon me and I have taken a few more steps. Just so wobbly to take the last one. I put a deposit on a very cute, affordable little house for my daughter and myself. I am so excited. I can collect my last check of the year on Tuesday, and then I will be able to turn on gas, electric and water. The only thing left is to tell AH. Gaaa!!
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Your life is going to open up in ways you've never even dreamed - it may happen slowly at first but it will happen..I'm so happy for you. 
I was so scared that day I moved out and here I am a year later and things are infinitely happier - I am relaxed, free and living life. I do not regret the decision even a little.
I was so scared that day I moved out and here I am a year later and things are infinitely happier - I am relaxed, free and living life. I do not regret the decision even a little.
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So, will you be changing your name from Yurt to CuteLittleHouse? 
Congratulations! I know this has been a long, difficult process for you. The end is in sight. I'll be praying for you in the days and weeks ahead.
Congratulations! I know this has been a long, difficult process for you. The end is in sight. I'll be praying for you in the days and weeks ahead.
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Hi Yurt! I just said a little prayer for you this am! Did you use a eBook for your daily exit planning? Do you mind sharing the title? I think I recall you had some kind of laid out plan.
I am so tickled for you.
Do you really have to tell him? Wouldn't leaving without a word speak just as loudly? This is your life. Do you need a final scene? He'll figure it out I would imagine.
I am so tickled for you.
Do you really have to tell him? Wouldn't leaving without a word speak just as loudly? This is your life. Do you need a final scene? He'll figure it out I would imagine.
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I still have not broken the news, although it will happen this weekend. He must know that something is on the horizon. I believe he was into my computer a couple of times and he has made a few pointed comments. However, he is being overly sweet the last two days. Bought me a new GPS (the better to track my travels?) and just ordered matching T-shirts for the 3 of us. This will make the conversation SO much more fun.
Codie, there were several books that I used for reference to formulate an exit. I will post them later today.
Codie, there were several books that I used for reference to formulate an exit. I will post them later today.
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Originally Posted by dandylion 
CodeJob--Really. Really? Leave a several years marriage without a word?
(of course, I would consider possible danger or abuse an exception--as safety is always number one).
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(of course, I would consider possible danger or abuse an exception--as safety is always number one).
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Either way, this is Yurt's final scene. You are strong enough to plan this out - quite wisely too - you are strong enough to play through. We've all got back your back woman! Hugs! Rocky music if that is your thing...
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Hummm** I don't know the full back story but if Divorce is already on the horizon, and the deposit has been put on the new place etc. . I would wait until I am out the house to say anything especially since he has been on the computer and has an idea. Especially since he checked out along time ago emotionally being an alcoholic.
I would just be smiling knowing I am going to be in a better place. Then tell him after either all my stuff is out or most. We all know the drama that is about to happen once she tells him.
I would just be smiling knowing I am going to be in a better place. Then tell him after either all my stuff is out or most. We all know the drama that is about to happen once she tells him.
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Congratulations! Sounds like we are practically in the same place right now. I am waiting for the attorney to send me the marriage settlement agreement so I can make an offer on a new place. My husband is not living at home and I am 100
% sure this is final and while I still have some bad days of doubt and wondering if this is REALLY it, I also, know that this is what needs to be done. I hope that you get through this rough patch and stand on the other side with your child and feel peace and happiness.
% sure this is final and while I still have some bad days of doubt and wondering if this is REALLY it, I also, know that this is what needs to be done. I hope that you get through this rough patch and stand on the other side with your child and feel peace and happiness.
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As some have phrased it---the "final scene".....well, maybe, of this chapter. There is a child involved---and that means another chapter--the chapter of co-parenting together for the best welfare of the child.
I do hope for the best possible unfolding of this. This is definitely not an easy thing to do.
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I do hope for the best possible unfolding of this. This is definitely not an easy thing to do.
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