DeanHV

Hi All,
Today is day 58 in my recovery from alcoholism. I came across this forum and decided to say hello. I am going to AA meetings and have joined a home group. I am looking for a sponsor but this is a personal thing so I am not in a great hurry at the moment since I want to find the right one the first time around. My home group meeting is tonight. I don't pretend that this will be an easy journey but all I have to worry about is staying away from that first drink today.
Cheers!
Dean

Stoogy

Hi Dean, welcome to the forum, congratulations on your decision to stay sober,
One day at a time, hope your meeting goes well, keep us posted.
Wishing you well Dean.

Applekat

Congrats on 58 days! Amazing! Welcome to SR!

GracieLou

Hi DeanHV and Welcome to SR. There is a lot of support and information. I am glad you are here.

Just remember it is a journey, not a race. Keep coming back!

firstymer

Welcome, Dean. It is good to have you here with us.

DeanHV

Thanks for the warm welcome. I appreciate it. I will have lots of questions but for now I will look around a bit and see what's going on. Thanks again!

LBrain

welcome dean, glad you are here

Stoogy

If I can help in any way just ask, the guys here are very helpful indeed, you will be very glad you came.
All the best Dean.

DeanHV

Another brain avatar. I shall pay special attention to your posts...

least

Welcome to the family. And congrats on 58 days sober!

DeanHV

Ok, since you offered...one thing that I am experiencing is a rather complete vacuum now that I do not fill my afternoons, evenings, and mornings with alcohol. I feel that I do not need to be in a hurry to make changes but alcohol was a very big part of my day-to-day life. My number one method for filling this is going to meetings but I feel the need for more. Any suggestions? I have also take back up guitar and reading. The thing that stinks is that I feel that I have to nearly completely replace all of the people that I hung out with. The peril of this is that my wife and I have little common ground anymore.

GracieLou

I had to let go of a few people, places and things. At the end, I even drank away the drinkers so there was not to many people left.

Does your wife drink?

I threw myself into meetings. I also read on here a lot. A slept a lot. Getting sober is exhausting.

DeanHV

Interesting that you say that. I am exhausted all of the time.

Mags1

Hi Dean and welcome to sr, 58 days that's great.

When I stopped drinking there was a big void, especially in my hand where a glass was in it most of the time when I was conscious at home. I'm also the sort of person who wants things done quickly, get to the finishing line. Let my life begin.

Instead, for me there isn't a finishing line, it isn't a race. I had to get to know me again, that's if I ever really knew me, and deal with all the things I covered up with booze. So I call them my baby steps, one set a time, sure and toward. I don't know where they will take me but I do know it will be sober.

GracieLou

For me it wore me out mentally and phyiscally. While my body wanted to rest, my mind was whirling. They were both wore out.

I slept pretty often and more hours than normal. Some days I felt better and others I still felt tired. It takes a while to get balance. Not only in your recovery program but in your personal life.

I put my recovery program first. I really did not have much of a personal life so it was no real problem ignoring it for a while. When I was bored I took my dog to the park. If I was lonely I called another AA member or came on here. There is always someone on here to chat or message to and of course plenty of threads to read.

Hevyn

Welcome Dean. I hope posting here will help as you adjust to your 'new normal'. You're among people who care and understand.

Dee74

Welcome aboard Dean

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PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum!!

Great job on Day 58!!