zombiegirl

Saw my mum today and she is so poorly.
Her speech has pretty much gone she now has thrush in her mouth from poor hospital care and she hardly acknowledged me and my kids today.
My hubby just bought me a gift to cheer me up but all I am doing is crying.
I've got a can of coke to take the craving away but just feel I need some sort of support.
Drinking is not the answer and I know this as it won't make me feel any better but my av is going on at me.
I won't drink I may have to just go for a walk or get my fave food or something before I just implode

CMF76

Sorry to hear about your mother. I know it is so hard to see a parent fall ill and noting you can do about it but be by their side. I hope you do not give into your AV find something else. You know if you do it will only make tomorrow worse. Do not compound your sadness stay strong you know that what she would want you to do.

Raider

Very, very sad. My family is 2500 miles away. I call every single day. Sometimes I don't pay attention to the conversation with my mom like I should. Then I hang up and fret that that is the last time I will ever talk to her. Ugh. I would pray to go before my family, but that would be too painful for them. So I dream up the next best thing, either we all die together in a crash of some sort (this will work) or I fling myself in the grave with the first one who goes. Neither of these scenarios will probably happen, I guess the only thing we can do is be with them, comfort them, and pray for them...being grateful of every single second you have with them. Blessings.

Amajorityofone

Friend-

Crying is actually quite healthy. I strongly recommend a good hard wail if conditions allow. Think of it as an emotional bowel movement. Just let it all out.

Remember, all you have to do is get through today. Confine all your thoughts to the present. Don't worry about tomorrow, next week, next month or even think about next year. Thus, I cannot encourage you enough to, as soon as conditions allow, pour yourself a hot bath, relax, and then take a long nap, asap. You'll feel better tomorrow.

I promise.

zombiegirl

Thank u xxx

Raider

Amajority said bowel.......baaaaaaawhawwwwwaaaww. Bowel. I saw that. Hahahahaha. Love you and prayers to you.

Amajorityofone

My goodness!

Who stuck a feather up your today?...ha-ha

malcolmsloan

Sorry to hear about your mum, Zgirl. I like the idea of getting a walk in, getting some air. Sending you strength, for sure. You can do this sober. I went through some pretty heavy family stuff in December, sober, and it was intense, but now that it's behind me, while I'm still sad about it, I'm glad that I experienced it sober. Hang in there.

KateL

My dad's not good either so I feel your pain xxxxx

Thepatman

Sorry about your mom. Nope drinking would not help, only deteriorate your own health.

Hope your walk make your feel better. Try to live the moment of the walk, take deep breaths, look at nature.

Anna

I'm sorry for the situation with your mother, and I know she would want you to continue with your recovery and get through this.

zombiegirl

Sober and going to bed xxxx
Prayers are with everyone going through hard times with family members xxx

least

I'm glad you're going to bed sober. You'll feel better for it in the morning.

zombiegirl

Woke up refreshed still very upset but no matter what I do I cannot change what's happened to mum thanks for your support xxx

Amajorityofone

"Do not let too much of yesterday creep into today."
-John Wooden.

Excellent advice, in my opinion.....and Congratulations!

STAY STRONG!