Well, I did it!
Well, I did it!
I filed for divorce this morning.
I don't know how I feel. My stomach is in knots, I have a headache. Haven't eaten anything yet today but I am not sure I could keep it down or not. I haven't cried, but could if someone said "boo" Just really, really sad.
I met with the attorney last Wednesday and went over everything. I really like her. I went back in this morning and paid and gave them all the documentation.
One thing I really was surprised about is she charges a flat fee rate based on the stages. So to file and draw up the preliminary papers, etc. was $xxxx. If we cannot resolve between ourselves and he hires his own attorney it is and additional $xxxx. That is it. No hourly rate and nickle/dime for phone calls, letters, etc.
I don't know how I feel. My stomach is in knots, I have a headache. Haven't eaten anything yet today but I am not sure I could keep it down or not. I haven't cried, but could if someone said "boo" Just really, really sad.
I met with the attorney last Wednesday and went over everything. I really like her. I went back in this morning and paid and gave them all the documentation.
One thing I really was surprised about is she charges a flat fee rate based on the stages. So to file and draw up the preliminary papers, etc. was $xxxx. If we cannot resolve between ourselves and he hires his own attorney it is and additional $xxxx. That is it. No hourly rate and nickle/dime for phone calls, letters, etc.
That sounds like a very nice payment schedule with the lawyer. I kind of wish mine had had that -- it would have been nice to know going in how much I could count on spending...
And I'm not surprised you don't know how to feel. It's a big decision and a bit action you've taken, and sometimes, I think we expect our emotions to be in parity with the size of the action, kwim? And you almost wonder if there's anything wrong with you because you don't have HUGE feelings?
Take good care of yourself. You deserve it.
And I'm not surprised you don't know how to feel. It's a big decision and a bit action you've taken, and sometimes, I think we expect our emotions to be in parity with the size of the action, kwim? And you almost wonder if there's anything wrong with you because you don't have HUGE feelings?
Take good care of yourself. You deserve it.
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As someone also going through the process, I'm not sure whether to say congratulations or I'm sorry? Which I would prefer to hear depends on the day (sometimes the hour!) I will just say I hope everything goes smoothly and that you find the peace and serenity that you so richly deserve (And fingers crossed that he doesn't fight you and you just have to pay the first set sum!)
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Hi Lyssy. I remember feeling the same way when I served my ex with papers last June. It's sad when any marriage ends, even if the reasons are totally legit. Its all part of the grieving process and completely normal.
My lawyer charged me in the exact same way. XAH and I were pretty much in agreement on everything so my total fees, including fees to transfer the house to my name etc. came to about $1700. On the other hand, XAH's lawyer charged by the hour/email/etc and he paid over $3000 even though it was my lawyer who did all the paperwork.
My lawyer charged me in the exact same way. XAH and I were pretty much in agreement on everything so my total fees, including fees to transfer the house to my name etc. came to about $1700. On the other hand, XAH's lawyer charged by the hour/email/etc and he paid over $3000 even though it was my lawyer who did all the paperwork.
Hi Lyssy, I remember feeling very empty when I learned my divorce was final. I think I get it....and I'm sorry for the sadness.
Hopefully there will be no further complications with the legalities of it all.
Please take good care!
Hopefully there will be no further complications with the legalities of it all.
Please take good care!
Lyssy... everyone is different but getting my divorce finalized was one of the best days of my life even though I lost so much. It was like freedom was given back to me.
Your mileage may vary but I wish you well!!!
Your mileage may vary but I wish you well!!!
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