Struggling with the first five days and staying sober
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Struggling with the first five days and staying sober
Hi guys, know this isn't a unique problem with us drinkers but I've been actively trying to sober up for 6 months now and im struggling, im finding it really hard to get past day 5. Well I've never got past it so far 
. I'll decide to have a glass of wine whilst cooking and become a functional alcoholic for a few weeks and then become a chaotic extreme drinker with all the crappy things that come with it. Same cycle all the time. My heart wants to be sober so much but my body and mind seem to be conflicting with it. So after being kicked off yet another job for my drinking last night im now back on day 1 for the millionth time. I really need to put in a plan this time because the more i mess up the more angry and hopeless i get with myself and feel like giving up with giving up if that makes sense.
For my plan so far i have decided to,
** stump up the courage to go to a meeting
** go to the gym everyday
** speak to my gp and see if i can get some affordable counselling and maybe something to help me stop feeling so anxious (which is how i ended up in this mess).
** get a part time day job, so im not in a drinking environment five days a week like i am now.
Im going to start doing these things from tomorrow. I'd be really grateful if anybody could share with me any tips or tricks be it mental or practical that helped them personally get past the initial period and stopped them from relapsing. I know this site is full of them scattered about but writing down my plan is part of the plan! I understand no medical advice either, but im not looking or feeling good at all, so if anybody has any ideas about how i can improve and repair myself quicker id really appreciate that too. Thanks, Khloe Xx
. I'll decide to have a glass of wine whilst cooking and become a functional alcoholic for a few weeks and then become a chaotic extreme drinker with all the crappy things that come with it. Same cycle all the time. My heart wants to be sober so much but my body and mind seem to be conflicting with it. So after being kicked off yet another job for my drinking last night im now back on day 1 for the millionth time. I really need to put in a plan this time because the more i mess up the more angry and hopeless i get with myself and feel like giving up with giving up if that makes sense. For my plan so far i have decided to,
** stump up the courage to go to a meeting
** go to the gym everyday
** speak to my gp and see if i can get some affordable counselling and maybe something to help me stop feeling so anxious (which is how i ended up in this mess).
** get a part time day job, so im not in a drinking environment five days a week like i am now.
Im going to start doing these things from tomorrow. I'd be really grateful if anybody could share with me any tips or tricks be it mental or practical that helped them personally get past the initial period and stopped them from relapsing. I know this site is full of them scattered about but writing down my plan is part of the plan! I understand no medical advice either, but im not looking or feeling good at all, so if anybody has any ideas about how i can improve and repair myself quicker id really appreciate that too. Thanks, Khloe Xx
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Good job with making a plan! You can do it!
Here is a link you might find helpful.
Good job with making a plan! You can do it!
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Hi Khloe 
I think finding more support and not being afraid to make changes in your life to help you stay sober are the main things to focus on.
There's also some good tips and tricks for cravings here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
I think finding more support and not being afraid to make changes in your life to help you stay sober are the main things to focus on.
There's also some good tips and tricks for cravings here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
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I think you need to read and listen to a great thread Stomper has started.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...iety-song.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...iety-song.html
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Im probably not anyone to give advice since I'm only on day 5 myself, so I'll offer my sympathy and encouragement instead. YOU CAN DO THIS.
I've tried to white knuckle my way to sobriety in the past and always screwed it up exactly the way you describe- by having a glass of wine while making dinner. This time feel very different though. I spent a few weeks curtailing my consumption and concentrated on eating healthy so when I nixed alcohol completely my body at least had some healthy stuff already in it. That seemed to help me.
The other thing I'm doing this time is just RELAXING...taking things slower physically...but even more importantly taking things slower emotionally. I'm working at keeping my anxiety in check- sometimes by nothing more than ACCEPTING that I'm anxious. I keep telling myself "it's all right. You're all right. Of course you are feeling anxious. You are going thru a HUGE transition"
I've tried to white knuckle my way to sobriety in the past and always screwed it up exactly the way you describe- by having a glass of wine while making dinner. This time feel very different though. I spent a few weeks curtailing my consumption and concentrated on eating healthy so when I nixed alcohol completely my body at least had some healthy stuff already in it. That seemed to help me.
The other thing I'm doing this time is just RELAXING...taking things slower physically...but even more importantly taking things slower emotionally. I'm working at keeping my anxiety in check- sometimes by nothing more than ACCEPTING that I'm anxious. I keep telling myself "it's all right. You're all right. Of course you are feeling anxious. You are going thru a HUGE transition"
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what got me though the doors of my 1st AA meeting started with wanting help.
then I got the courage to do it( I needed that to get through the fear).
then I did it.
then I decided I wanted what they had and was willing to go to any lengths to get it( to find out what they had, I read the first 164 pages of the big book quite a few times. it read real good to me!).
then I went to any lengths( attending as many meetings as I could was part of them lengths).
none of them lengths were illegal or hurt me.
what kept me from caving to the craving,compulsion, and obsession before the miracle happened was knowing that alcohol wouldn't help anymore.
then I saw alcohol never helped.
been sober since that 1st meeting.
then I got the courage to do it( I needed that to get through the fear).
then I did it.
then I decided I wanted what they had and was willing to go to any lengths to get it( to find out what they had, I read the first 164 pages of the big book quite a few times. it read real good to me!).
then I went to any lengths( attending as many meetings as I could was part of them lengths).
none of them lengths were illegal or hurt me.
what kept me from caving to the craving,compulsion, and obsession before the miracle happened was knowing that alcohol wouldn't help anymore.
then I saw alcohol never helped.
been sober since that 1st meeting.
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