some progress
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some progress
Hi - I've been in al anon for five months now and am starting to feel some progress. It's small, but for now I'll take these signs of hope. I was able to practice a bit of detachment when a family member did something very hurtful to me today. I gently asserted my feelings instead of jumping to rage. I also sat with the pain after and let myself feel it instead of thinking that hurt required action and jumping to act to fix things (which wouldn't have fixed things). I hope to keep feeling these signs of progress, they help.
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Springs, isn't it wonderful when you get to the point where you can start to see the difference in "handling this situation--old me" and "handling this situation--new improved me"? I've had several instances in the last few months where I was able to see a really big difference in my response to a problem or issue from what it would have been prior to SR and Alanon, and actually, not a one of the most notable situations was related to my A! It was just being able to deal with LIFE differently!
Realizing what is and isn't mine to worry about/deal with has been immensely freeing. Realizing that others are responsible for living their own lives, doing their own jobs and handling their own problems is like a breath of fresh air. Never would have believed I was codependent, but at some point I couldn't deny it any longer. Admitting that and beginning to work on it is affecting every single part of my life.
Thanks for your post--I think too often we don't stop to celebrate our little victories, and changing your whole outlook on life isn't exactly a small thing, either! Glad you're seeing the change and wishing you well as you continue on your way.
Realizing what is and isn't mine to worry about/deal with has been immensely freeing. Realizing that others are responsible for living their own lives, doing their own jobs and handling their own problems is like a breath of fresh air. Never would have believed I was codependent, but at some point I couldn't deny it any longer. Admitting that and beginning to work on it is affecting every single part of my life.
Thanks for your post--I think too often we don't stop to celebrate our little victories, and changing your whole outlook on life isn't exactly a small thing, either! Glad you're seeing the change and wishing you well as you continue on your way.
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Congrats on making big steps. I don't even know where to start, al anon is not happing as the only 2 meeting are a hour away from me at noon and I watch my Grandkids while my son is at work. Iv been reading I hope that will help. So sorry I didn't mean to make this about me. Once again great job moving forward keep up the good work.
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