autumn18

I am so thankful for finding this site. My boyfriend is in recovery and I am trying very hard to be understanding, patient, and kind. when we started dating, i had no idea he was an addict. He told me one day after pleading with him to go to the doc cause he had been sick. I fell in love with him and he is trying to get clean. Things are so different now. we argue alot. There is zero affection. I feel very alone in this relationship. We tried to seperate and he came back saying that now that he is getting clean i am going to leave him? i love him. I see a good man. Want to stay with him but i dont know how much more i can handle.

JadeSatellite

My partner separated from me because I had been using them as a crutch. I realize I was doing that to them, and it was selfish of me. Maybe a break while he focuses on himself will work. Or, if you're up for it, you could be supportive as you can while he hashes things out. What is he doing to get clean?

ReadyAndAble

Hi, autumn. I'm really thankful for this site, too. You'll get a lot of insight and support here. Glad you found it!

You'll also find a lot of people who have been through similar experiences in the SR Friends and Family forums: The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com

Glad you posted!

autumn18

Please. If anyone could offer some insight on suboxone addiction. I also fought a different kind of addiction 15 years ago. i do understand how your every moment and every thought and action revolves around the addiction. i am so sad. I just want him to be okay.

autumn18

Thank you for reading my post and taking your time to send hopeful words.

Mentium

It is maybe worth remembering that many addicts literally have no control over their addiction. They will often feel terrible at the way they are treating their loved ones - and blot out those feelings with more of what they are addicted to.

I reminded myself of the sheer power of addiction the other day when I remembered something from some years ago.

I woke up one morning absolutely determined to quit drinking - to have a 'break' I think as I recall, from the awful merry-go-round.

By five O'clock that day I caved in. I walked to the shop a few hundred yards from home with tears running down my face because I simply could not stop myself form going to the shop and getting my 'fix', despite every ounce of my will power screaming at me not to.

MythOfSisyphus

I know the feeling well, Mentium. That would happen with me back when I drank and wasn't trying to quit. I would sometimes just decided I should take a day off from drinking to recover, but as it got closer and closer to the time when they couldn't sell alcohol I would cave and make a run to the liquor store before closing time. No matter how badly I wanted to just take one lousy day off from it I'd still be compelled to go buy booze.

Mentium

Yep. In a way these experiences encapsulate the power of addiction over reason and will power.

honeypig

Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

I think this might be the link that ReadyAndAble meant to post.

Anna

Hi,

I think it's important that you focus on yourself and take care of you. Your boyfriend will hopefully continue to recover and I hope you do the same. Please check out our Friends & Families forums.