geno198

need to stop drinking, want to stop drinking, seems like i can't stop drinking. Why its it when you set out to do something, that is when its the hardest? Anyone have any. Sugestions.

lommey

gleno don't have the first one and post on here x

ScottFromWI

Usually the good things in life aren't easy Geno, and being sober is no different. It takes a commitment, and most importantly a desire to be sober, even more so than your desire to drink.

Have you tried any programs or plans such as AA/NA, AVRT, etc.. to try and stop or are you just trying to "not drink" on sheer willpower alone?

least

Living sober is something that is possible, but you've got to want to be sober more than you want to drink. How badly do you want to be sober?


The important thing is to never give up. Keep trying til you get it right.

doggonecarl

I have found that when I really set out to do something, I do it, despite the difficulty.

There must have been times in your life, Geno, where you accomplished something against great odds. Sobriety should be no different...If you really want it.

Do you really want to be sober? Or is it just easier for your addiction to say it's too hard and keep drinking?

Hevyn

Welcome geno! We're so glad you found us.

SR helped me do what I felt was impossible. The more I read and posted here, the stronger I became. It took me a little while, but I finally found the courage to let go of it. It was no longer doing a thing for me but making me desperately unhappy and depressed. You can do this geno - we're here to help.

Dee74

I always recommend more support Geno - sometimes this thing is too big for just us to deal with.

What changes have you made to your life to help you stop drinking?

D

ProgressNotPerfection

A couple of things I've heard around the tables might help:

"The sleeper only gets the dream."

"Willingness without action is fantasy."

Down the book and read it. Here is a link to multiple PDF files for free that can help you - https://www.google.com/search?num=10...56.Oc6Wbakj7Ak

This might help as well:

Here are some simple action steps you can take today do to increase your chances of recovery. These may not be easy, but they are simple!

First – Ninety In Ninety! – Attend ninety meetings in ninety days. Most of us actively used at least ninety days in a row. We can do ninety in ninety! Attending ninety meetings in ninety days is possible for everyone who lives in an area where there are enough meetings. If there aren’t meetings on a daily basis in your area, go to as many as possible. Meetings don’t keep us clean and sober – that is where we learn what to do out in the world to stay in recovery and we learn those things from people that have stayed clean and sober by doing them. Doing this is a key to your success!

Second – Get Phone Numbers! – Get phone numbers from members that you meet at the meetings. Men work with men, women work with women. This saves many complications. Get same-sex phone numbers – as many as possible. Ask what the best time to call is – and make a note of those that say anytime – they mean it – and making a call at three in the morning might just save your life! You may not believe it, but you are actually helping those you call as much as they are helping you! Recovery is a process of action – we need to help others to fully recovery from what ails us! Doing this is a key to your success!

Third – Get A Sponsor! – A sponsor is member of the program who has agreed to show you how to work the steps of the program – all twelve of them! Again, men work with men – women work with women. Sponsors are people who have learned how to stay clean and sober by working the steps of the program. Get a sponsor, call your sponsor, meet with your sponsor – they agreed to do these things and more when they agreed to be your sponsor! Believe it or not, you are helping them with their program as much as they are helping you with yours! Doing this is a key to your success!

Fourth – Read The Instructions! – What’s the old saying: “When all else fails, read the instructions!” Get a copy of the Big Book (the basic text), and any other approved literature. We have no opinion on outside issues - non-approved literature is an outside issue. If you can’t afford these books, ask your sponsor to help you get copies of them. Reading the instructions can explain a good deal of the program. Ask your sponsor where to start – there is a great fortune of knowledge about recovery which is free for the taking in these manuals! Doing this is a key to your success!

Fifth – Follow The Suggestions – Follow the suggestions heard at the tables. You might discuss them with your sponsor if they seem confusing. Remember that meetings alone don’t keep us clean and sober. All they do is show us what we can do to stay clean and sober, and we are shown how to do that by people who are staying clean and sober. Furthermore, it is only when we apply what we learn at the meetings to our daily life, to our interactions with other people and to the relationship we have with our higher power that our recovery results in us being happy, joyous and free! After all, these are the three by-products of working the program. Doing this is a key to your success!

Remember – it is your choice! Doing these five things to the best of your ability will greatly increase your chances of getting and staying clean and sober one day at a time!

bridgeeboo2006

I'm 5 days clean almost. I've tried before but they were half-hearted attempts. I'm finding it to b the hardest thing this time because I'm honestly trying and being completely honest w myself. I know there will b more difficult times ahead..so I'm building resources I can rely on when the going gets tough. If I don't get sober I may lose my best friend and lover, if I haven't already, so the stakes being so high makes it that much more difficult if I fail.