Getting Through Hard Times
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Getting Through Hard Times
Sunday, September 15, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Getting Through Hard Times
We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing.
—Codependent No More
Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.
What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.
We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.
Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.
The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, "Nothing good ever happens to me... I'm just a victim... People can't be trusted... Life isn't worth living"?
We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what's good in life.
God, let my hard times be healing times.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Getting Through Hard Times
We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing.
—Codependent No More
Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.
What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.
We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.
Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.
The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, "Nothing good ever happens to me... I'm just a victim... People can't be trusted... Life isn't worth living"?
We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what's good in life.
God, let my hard times be healing times.
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I have faced hard times many times in my life, financially, emotionally and spiritually, I have gone through periods where I had to make a huge adjustment to how I was living.
The best thing I learned was "if I cannot change my circumstance, then I must change my attitude". When I looked at hard times as defeat...I felt defeated. But when I looked at hard times as a challenge to help me redefine what was and was not important in my life, as a challenge to grow and make positive changes that would take me some place wonderful...when I looked at life as an adventure and felt gratitude for all the experiences I endured and embraced along the way...it was then that I knew I would make it and never be defeated again.
Time has proven that true. Life is ever changing but if I take the bad with the good and grow, remembering the basics and keep myself spiritually fit, if I trust that life will take me to where I am supposed to go, then all is well and my soul is at peace.
Hugs
The best thing I learned was "if I cannot change my circumstance, then I must change my attitude". When I looked at hard times as defeat...I felt defeated. But when I looked at hard times as a challenge to help me redefine what was and was not important in my life, as a challenge to grow and make positive changes that would take me some place wonderful...when I looked at life as an adventure and felt gratitude for all the experiences I endured and embraced along the way...it was then that I knew I would make it and never be defeated again.
Time has proven that true. Life is ever changing but if I take the bad with the good and grow, remembering the basics and keep myself spiritually fit, if I trust that life will take me to where I am supposed to go, then all is well and my soul is at peace.
Hugs
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Hello LMN, The pain our family, especially myself, is feeling, is to the point of overwhelming me. When will the stress, guilt, blame ever let up some. I can't hear my AD AV it's in her mind, but it must be killing her slowly inside. She is trying so hard to stay away from not only the friends that use, but the urge and craving that plague her daily. She attends IOP therapy, I do believe it's helping her, but to watch such a beautiful young lady, be in so much emotional pain, whilst I'm helpless to fix this. I know I can't fix it, but can I love it away? Some mental illnesses are starting to surface, she is only 6 weeks clean, so the amounts of issues she is dealing with are piling up, she can't sort them out, prioritize them? I'm hear physically, as most moms are in the beginning, but what can I do to ease her pain? Why her? She was always the golden child, the kid everyone wanted their kids to be like. Now, those people judge her. My little girl, all grown up and an addict. How else can I help her? I don't let her see me cry anymore. I always listen even when fowl words are coming out of her mouth, she doesn't mean those words. Like I've always said, I'm sad, lost and worried, but I do have hope. Sorry I'm so doom and gloom this morning, I didn't wake up that way, reality has a way of ruining a beautiful day...however, I'm still going to smile! TF
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