Melbell

UGGGG, Weekends always hard and usually I cave. I'm good during the week and then the weekend comes and bam I drink. I have my kids and I am not going to but I want to sooooo bad. I think the only thing that is stopping me is my husband (who I'm seperated from) may come over for a visit later. I'm supposed to go to a sober function tomorrow night and Sunday with my sponsor but I am finding tonight so damn hard!!

Please guys give me some hope and strength!

Peace.
Melbell

phoebe64

Hi Mel, we are in this together. I am struggling tonight as well. I have done well this week and the weekends are tough. Always are.

Slammy1

One minute at a time. You guys need a distraction, I've been reading. Something to overwhelm the addict voice. When you got nothing else to overshadow your addict voice, I think it seems louder.

resolute50

Hang in there, Mel.
Find something to keep your mind busy.
We're all pulling for you!!!

Melbell

Thats why I'm on here. Trying to keep my mind off it!

Mountainmanbob

when I used to get my daughter for visits
I would tell myself that I would not drink with her around
but
in short time I would have a beer in my hand
just a little booze seemed to put a damper on the whole day
you can do it
you will think much better of yourself for not drinking
we get sick of what it does to us don't we
Mountainman

phoebe64

I am here and chatting with a friend in emails. She is planning a visit here. It is a good distraction. And, I have to sit here and listen to the controlled chaos in my yard. Neighbor kids all out playing here. I cannot really go off and do my own thing. I have parenting to do, so, there is another good reason to remain sober. Parenting.

LillianGish

Hi Melbell,
I can tell this weekend is going to be hard for me too. Hang in there.

What I want to tell you is that the hope and strength you need, lies inside of you. It's there. Just open your heart and see the woman you really want to be.

Second, think of a person you really admire in real life. Someone older and wiser whom you look up to. Not like Gandhi or Martin Luther King....I'm talking someone you really know.

Now think what they would tell you to do.

Peace to you too. Serenity comes from within. :-)

kadidee

Hi Melbell. I had some weak thoughts today too. I weighed a few hours of not so fun or relaxing wine drinking against feeling good tomorrow, and feeling good tomorrow won, thankfully. We can do this!

Dee74

There are some good tips here melbell

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html

the more sober Friday nights you have the more sober Saturday mornings you'll get too - it will become easier

D

Notmyrealname

Look on the bright side, you seem to have no problem keeping off the sauce during the week, that means if you can just get past those two little tough weekend days you get a five-day coast down easy street

It really does get a lot easier if you stick with it. It sounds like you have the momentum in your favor, just keep going in the right direction

EndGameNYC

Waking up on Monday ready, rested, and eager to take on the day is a beautiful thing.

Slammy1

If you have true faith in yourself then anything that can be done will be done. Think of all you've survived to get here, You're stronger than this.

erics

Think it all the way through

Tell on your disease like you're doing right now

Feeling proud of yourself in the morning, or hating yourself

Every time you relapse it will be much harder to get sober

It will only get worse

Your purpose of being alive is not to waste yourself.

ZeldaFan

I was in the same boat. I didn't have much of an urge to drink during the week but after work today it took everything in me not to stop and get something to drink. I forced myself to go straight home, got some exercise and then made myself a nice meal. It helped calm down the urge and keep me sober for another day. Stay strong and you will feel so much better about your decision when you wake up tomorrow. I know I will.

13unluckyforsom

Hey I was feeling exactly the same about 8/9 hours ago - I struggled almost all night with the urge to drink - horrible when it gets inside your head so much but I managed to get past it and you can too. I also have kids so I can relate to the chaos lol it's not easy to stay calm and in control but alcohol would only make us feel worse in the long run. And I'm sure you don't want to let yourself down as it sounds like you've been doing well so far try and distract your mind

Kaneda8888

Friday nights are the toughest for me as well.. Try and be physically active even if its just doing the ironing ! I find that the couch, bed and chair are my greatest enemy at night as it lets me sit and then my mind starts playing its games. By talking or moving around, my mind has no chance of getting my attention if you know what I mean. Hang in there !

Melbell

Thank you everyone for the supportive posts! I didn't drink and woke up sober to my little ones watching cartoons and me not feeling like absolute sh*t wishing I could stay in bed until noon. I am meeting my sponsor tonight for a sober function and going to a sober recovery rally in my city tomorrow during the afternoon so I'm looking forward to it. Going to a screening of a movie called Anonymous People. Google it - it looks really good. I'm excited for the rest of my weekend! Thanks again SR!

Peace,
Melbell

13unluckyforsom

Well done melbell it really is hard to get through the urge at the time but I bet you feel stronger in yourself today for not giving in. Have a nice weekend.

LillianGish

I'm excited for the rest of your life! Good for you.