R0MPaige

Recently I've been noticing how he's attracted to other women. When he's drinking he doesn't hesitate to scope out a hot girl, or point her out to his friends. The other night he commented on a girls Facebook picture "I'd tap that", I wouldn't have seen it if I wasn't online at the time, it makes me wonder how he acts when I'm NOT around. My biggest concern is what if he's really drunk and a girl comes on to him and he cheats, or what if he already has. I've tried talking to him about this, but he hates how un trusting I am, which is understandable, but he's given me reasons to question him..



He's also said before how he only is attracted to me, but watches porn.. Then he said I don't get off to porn, it's just fun to watch..

I have a newborn son with him. I've honestly been thinking about finding a hot girl to wait till he's drunk and hit on him, but I don't know anyone.. Pretty sad I know, I'm just concerned. I've had someone play me before and it's embarrassing..

goodstitch

You know you deserve better,already. Men like your boyfriend are a dozen.

AnvilheadII

his behavior demonstrates CLEARLY that he does not respect you OR other women. it's very shallow, callous and all about his ego. add to that his alcohol problem and the porn and it's a recipe for continued distrust, disappointment and disrespect.

you're a mom now and just don't need the games.

goodstitch

I meant "a dime a dozen."

Hammer

The word you may be looking for is "user."

He uses you and looks to use others. For example, the women you are discussing.

Just the way things go through a user's mind.

So now that you are getting things figured out . . . what to do with the rest of your life?

Al-Anon is a good start.

dandylion

Dear ROMpaige, you---and every woman deserves a relationship where there is trust and respect. Living in doubt and fear erodes a person from the inside. It destroys self-esteem and relationships.

Most of all, as your son grows up he needs to see relationships where trust and respect are demonstrated on a daily basis. This is how you will prepare him to have healthy relationships when he is an adult.

I am glad that you are questioning these things, now. It gives you an opportunity to make changes where changes need to be made. Since he is an alcoholic, have you considered alanon. It is the best gift you could give yourself, just now. Being in a relationship with an active alcoholic is a lonely, hard road.

sincerely, dandylion

Shadydeal

Sounds like someone I use to know Trust me...It wasn't a good thing! Using and User!