Why Me
Breaking Thru
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Why Me
I don't know what percentage of people are addicted but why me. I certainly didn't want it. Now I have to deal with this the rest if my life. Can I maybe blame my childhood which I remember little of. Can I blame my mother, certainly not my father because he wasn't around. Can I blame anyone but me because if given a choice I would leave it I certainly wouldn't wish it on anyone else. Sorry Just venting I guesd
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It sucks but that was the hand we were dealt. Have a day to feel lousy about it, then move on and realize that you are the master of your soul and by being sober, control your fate (thank you Nelson Mandela 
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Join Date: May 2012
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but why not you?
seriously, seems we don't ask ourselves that too often...why shouldn't it be me and you?
nobody "wants" this, trikyriky, and no-one sets out to get it.
any more than any other condition humans end up with.
blaming someone/anyone/anything feels good for a while, but the best thing i found is to concentrate on how to learn to live with "it" and what i could do to make that living easier.
seriously, seems we don't ask ourselves that too often...why shouldn't it be me and you?
nobody "wants" this, trikyriky, and no-one sets out to get it.
any more than any other condition humans end up with.
blaming someone/anyone/anything feels good for a while, but the best thing i found is to concentrate on how to learn to live with "it" and what i could do to make that living easier.
A work in progress
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
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Why does someone get cancer? Why does someone get hit by a drunk driver? Why does Donald Trump have a gazillion dollars while hardworking people are unemployed?
Life isn't always "fair." Sometimes things (good AND bad) happen seemingly randomly.
What counts is how you respond to what life hands you. This is also known as "living life on life's terms." It's a good expression to keep in mind as you begin to navigate life sober. The world doesn't "owe" you anything. It is your job to be responsible for managing this condition that you never asked for, just as a diabetic is responsible for managing his/her disease.
Actually, when you compare alcoholism to a lot of other life situations, we don't have much to complain about. Not only is alcoholism very, very treatable, but the treatment/recovery work that we do can make us better people than we would have been if we had never encountered this particular problem.
Life isn't always "fair." Sometimes things (good AND bad) happen seemingly randomly.
What counts is how you respond to what life hands you. This is also known as "living life on life's terms." It's a good expression to keep in mind as you begin to navigate life sober. The world doesn't "owe" you anything. It is your job to be responsible for managing this condition that you never asked for, just as a diabetic is responsible for managing his/her disease.
Actually, when you compare alcoholism to a lot of other life situations, we don't have much to complain about. Not only is alcoholism very, very treatable, but the treatment/recovery work that we do can make us better people than we would have been if we had never encountered this particular problem.
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: 49 degrees north
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Perhaps because you can handle it. Perhaps because it can make you a better person.
None of us woke up one morning when we were children and thought, "I think I'll be an addict when I grow up."
But, believe it or not, many of us in recovery are grateful. Because nothing else could have caused the growth resulting in the person we are today.
Anger and self pity are typical reactions of those of us who are powerless...
Best to you!
Warren
None of us woke up one morning when we were children and thought, "I think I'll be an addict when I grow up."
But, believe it or not, many of us in recovery are grateful. Because nothing else could have caused the growth resulting in the person we are today.
Anger and self pity are typical reactions of those of us who are powerless...
Best to you!
Warren
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Houston, Tx
Posts: 278
I heard someone in a meeting say that alcohol isn't her problem, reality is. That really, really resonated with me. Today is only my 24th day... But I'm utilizing a combination of AA & working with a counselor to uncover why I drank. I've barely scratched the surface of that work... But, for me, I'm almost certain it's issues with fear, acceptance, abandonment & self-worth.
At any rate, instead of asking why me? Maybe ask why did I? I have times where I'm depressed or anxious about sobriety and the issues that catalyzed my decision to get clean & sober. But, I make a concerted effort now to recognize those feelings, endure that moment & get busy with something outside myself. Things as simple as cleaning or playing with my pup.
Annnnnnd- going to meetings helps me tremendously... We're not unique in that we're alcoholics. You're not alone... We're all in this same ocean, just riding different waves. I go to a meeting for folks with double digit sobriety once a week. Hearing their experience, strength & hope helps me reinforce a singleness of purpose for me- staying sober. Why me doesn't matter. The realization that I cannot drink has opened up an opportunity to live a life of positivity & relevance. Trust me, it cost me dearly... But I won't waste this opportunity.
Like Lexicat said, I'm trying to build something positive and come to a fuller understanding of myself.
Hang in there.... And I wish you well on this journey!
At any rate, instead of asking why me? Maybe ask why did I? I have times where I'm depressed or anxious about sobriety and the issues that catalyzed my decision to get clean & sober. But, I make a concerted effort now to recognize those feelings, endure that moment & get busy with something outside myself. Things as simple as cleaning or playing with my pup.
Annnnnnd- going to meetings helps me tremendously... We're not unique in that we're alcoholics. You're not alone... We're all in this same ocean, just riding different waves. I go to a meeting for folks with double digit sobriety once a week. Hearing their experience, strength & hope helps me reinforce a singleness of purpose for me- staying sober. Why me doesn't matter. The realization that I cannot drink has opened up an opportunity to live a life of positivity & relevance. Trust me, it cost me dearly... But I won't waste this opportunity.
Like Lexicat said, I'm trying to build something positive and come to a fuller understanding of myself.
Hang in there.... And I wish you well on this journey!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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I don't know why me - but I do know that all I've been through, good and bad, has made me who I am, and I like who I am these days.
I may not be the person I am without all that struggle - I guess thats the other side of the coin?
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I may not be the person I am without all that struggle - I guess thats the other side of the coin?
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Keeping it simple!
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Surrey, BC
Posts: 3,282
Have to agree with Fini. Why not us???? Being an alcoholic has opened up so many things for me I wouldn't have done when I was drinking or done before this disease sucked me in. I think we become better people and I know for me I am much less judgemental, less anal, and definately more patient. I have opened my mind up so much in the last 8 months than I ever have in my life.
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