celticgenes

Hi, all,

I haven't posted in a while. Passed the one year mark of the end of my engagement to the A. It all exploded rather suddenly. I last saw him about a month ago (we still own property together, ugh), and had a pleasant enough time over coffee. Then, poof-I just sort of drifted away.

I realized that it was always me who texted, picked up the phone, emailed him. I was just prolonging the end (which had already occurred, LOL). It's weird, but good, that I seem to now be able to just let him go. I finally can get my head and heart around the fact that this relationship is done.

I'm still in therapy, just joined a grief support group, and went back on antidepressants, but the thing that has changed is that the door is truly closed now. Now I just need to move forward. And I will. I'm finally learning to be gentle with myself, and take all of the time that I need to process the effects of being an ACOA, with all of the bad decision making that followed.

Just wanted to touch base and say thanks. This board was my lifeline many, many times.

Peace to all

dandylion

Dear celticgenes, Sooo good to hear from you!!! I am truly impressed with the progress that you have made. This is also inspiring to others who are where you were just a year ago.

Please stay in touch with us.

Thanks for the catch-up!!!!

LadySage

Proud of you! It's so very hard to close the door and begin anew...but not as hard as moving forward while looking back

I'm a fellow ACOA and I know that it's hard enough to deal with those issues let alone another person's. Being gentle with yourself is HUGE I think, it's something that I also struggle with and seems really key. Take it one step at a time.