feel horrible depressed and used
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feel horrible depressed and used
iam hating life right now, so desspresed want to go to a meeting but cant. why? bacause me husband wont let me even tho he dosent know iam using but deep down i think he dose. i just want to be over this stuff so ready to move on and not have somthing controling my life. how do i do that. i came to figure out that once i get a using thought i dont have to go out and use right then but after a couple of days i end up using but why i dont understand iam reading all the book and praying alot i know my tools. but just dont know how to get the thought out of my head
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Originally Posted by elihoping 
Why won't he let you? Can you stay somewhere else for a while so you can get sober?
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Originally Posted by Aphoenix
iam hating life right now, so desspresed want to go to a meeting but cant. why? bacause me husband wont let me even tho he dosent know iam using but deep down i think he dose. i just want to be over this stuff so ready to move on and not have somthing controling my life. how do i do that. i came to figure out that once i get a using thought i dont have to go out and use right then but after a couple of days i end up using but why i dont understand iam reading all the book and praying alot i know my tools. but just dont know how to get the thought out of my head
Pray to have God remove it. Can't hurt!
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Hi Aphoenix,
Hang in there! Have you thought about counseling? That may help you to identify where the thoughts are coming from and maybe come up with some strategies to address the root causes. Plus, if your husband is worried about who you might interact with in a meeting, going to counseling could put him at ease because it's typically in a safe, structured, one-on-one type of setting.
On a side note, I'm catching a hint that something is off about your relationship with your husband, but I don't want to pry unless you feel comfortable sharing.
Stay strong!
Hang in there! Have you thought about counseling? That may help you to identify where the thoughts are coming from and maybe come up with some strategies to address the root causes. Plus, if your husband is worried about who you might interact with in a meeting, going to counseling could put him at ease because it's typically in a safe, structured, one-on-one type of setting.
On a side note, I'm catching a hint that something is off about your relationship with your husband, but I don't want to pry unless you feel comfortable sharing.
Stay strong!
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I used to keep the battles going in my head. Now, I just start writing or talking about it. Even if I am writing down my thoughts on the debate, it is harder for me to convince my self to use once I see it in writing. I particularly like writing down a benefits and costs list. Each time I do it, the costs become clearer and more profound, but it has to be active. Make a new list every time, reading an old list never helped me. That is how I get the debate out of my head.
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Originally Posted by Aphoenix
what do you mean somthings off
Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.
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How about an online meeting?
That way you could stay home but still participate w/o the risk of relapsing.
I hope you can come to some compromise to get the help you need.
God Bless you.
I hope you can come to some compromise to get the help you need.
God Bless you.
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Originally Posted by AM9610
Hi Aphoenix,
Hang in there! Have you thought about counseling? That may help you to identify where the thoughts are coming from and maybe come up with some strategies to address the root causes. Plus, if your husband is worried about who you might interact with in a meeting, going to counseling could put him at ease because it's typically in a safe, structured, one-on-one type of setting.
On a side note, I'm catching a hint that something is off about your relationship with your husband, but I don't want to pry unless you feel comfortable sharing.
Stay strong!
Hang in there! Have you thought about counseling? That may help you to identify where the thoughts are coming from and maybe come up with some strategies to address the root causes. Plus, if your husband is worried about who you might interact with in a meeting, going to counseling could put him at ease because it's typically in a safe, structured, one-on-one type of setting.
On a side note, I'm catching a hint that something is off about your relationship with your husband, but I don't want to pry unless you feel comfortable sharing.
Stay strong!
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Hi, I remember those thoughts popping into my head to use again.
I decided enough was enough & I needed support to so I rung my local hospital & checked myself into a weekly rehab programme where I was given counselling. They also bought in a nutritionist.
Best thing I ever did.
If this was available to you & in a hospital setting, would your partner let you go then. Do you have anything like this available in your area?
This is about you, if you want to stop using, you have the power to do something about it.
I decided enough was enough & I needed support to so I rung my local hospital & checked myself into a weekly rehab programme where I was given counselling. They also bought in a nutritionist.
Best thing I ever did.
If this was available to you & in a hospital setting, would your partner let you go then. Do you have anything like this available in your area?
This is about you, if you want to stop using, you have the power to do something about it.
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