Big Book Quote for 2/2/2013
Trudging that road.
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"The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations
with his children. Their young minds were impressionable while he
was drinking. Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for
what he has done to them and to their mother. The children are
sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot
seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after
their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.
In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they
will let him know it."
"The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations
with his children. Their young minds were impressionable while he
was drinking. Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for
what he has done to them and to their mother. The children are
sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot
seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after
their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.
In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they
will let him know it."
~Alcoholics Anonymous The Family Afterward pg 134~
c Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, INC.
c Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, INC.
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My son was very young when I drank. Whether he remembers or pictures me drinking when he is older is nothing I can control or worry about. All he knows now is a father who is there for him, who is never seen taking a drink, who is present and who loves him for him, not for what his father projects onto him. But, having said that, during my drinking, I think he felt something was off. After treatment, he didn't want to go to into my arms. He clutched to his mother. It took a bit of time for him to see that I wasn't going anywhere and that he felt loved and the day that he reached for me....that is when I knew things were different.
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