Losing everything
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Losing everything
My drinking has caused me to lose the love of my life, my best friend, and the trust/respect of my family. Dealing with that grief sober has been the hardest thing. I miss my loved ones. What has helped others of you in dealing with loss?
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What helped me deal with the guilt and shame in early recovery, was the knowledge that I was taking responsibility for my life, for what I did and how I lived on a daily basis. I had to stop worrying about what others thought about me and how they judged me, and focus on what I knew to be true about myself.
Really, all you can do is to move forward and change your life with every thought and intention through your day. Journalling helped me a lot too.
Really, all you can do is to move forward and change your life with every thought and intention through your day. Journalling helped me a lot too.
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I accepted early on that there was absolutely nothing that I could do to change anything that I had done in the past. Yesterday, with its mistakes and failures, is gone forever.
I realized the only thing I could do was to make the right choices today - and most importantly, to stay sober so that I could do the next right thing.
Also, think about the insanity of drinking. In two sentences, you have said that drinking caused you to lose everything - and it is hard not to drink over it! Break the cycle.
I realized the only thing I could do was to make the right choices today - and most importantly, to stay sober so that I could do the next right thing.
Also, think about the insanity of drinking. In two sentences, you have said that drinking caused you to lose everything - and it is hard not to drink over it! Break the cycle.
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Originally Posted by zeroptzero 
I accepted early on that there was absolutely nothing that I could do to change anything that I had done in the past. Yesterday, with its mistakes and failures, is gone forever.
I realized the only thing I could do was to make the right choices today - and most importantly, to stay sober so that I could do the next right thing.
Also, think about the insanity of drinking. In two sentences, you have said that drinking caused you to lose everything - and it is hard not to drink over it! Break the cycle.
I realized the only thing I could do was to make the right choices today - and most importantly, to stay sober so that I could do the next right thing.
Also, think about the insanity of drinking. In two sentences, you have said that drinking caused you to lose everything - and it is hard not to drink over it! Break the cycle.
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Originally Posted by Runnerbynature
That was pretty profound. I do in my heart of hearts believe that I can make good decisions and there will be light at the end of the tunnel. I feel it's necessary to grieve when you've hurt someone. I'm just so used to numbing these feelings away- it's learning to feel again. And that's challenging.
re-learning this will be challenging, but you really have two choices... continue on the same path, and continue losing ... until you really lose everything.
or make the choice to be sober and do it now.
we are often so afraid of the future and what this new life will bring, but from what i've seen here and my personal experience... life without booze becomes much more rewarding, joyful and fulfilling.
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I lost a lot of stuff, money, people, things. I had to pull myself up one day. I told myself to man up and move on because that is all in the past. I am only responsible for what is coming up next.
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