Weasel1966

So how do I solve it...

I have been here since April.

Not long enough to fully heal.... But long enough to see so much pain.... From others.... And myself.

It's hard not to want to reach out through my keyboard and help.... And in some cases smack people just like me.

You would think I could do it for myself.

My partner and I are fighting bad at this moment. He is angry for the drugs he asks for.

So I sit typing to you. In hopes that it will solve everything.

So what now?

So what now?

NatalieN

Weasel
Wishing your partner will come to the same conclusion you have about addiction and decides to get going on this wonderful and sometimes difficult journey of recovery.

Best wishes to both of you

Natalie

Dee74

You stay focused on what you know is right for you. Thats all any of us can do.,

If you think you have some codependent issues in your relationship, or if you think your relationship is being affected by substance abuse, it might be worth visiting the Family and Friends forums as well, Ken?

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Stevie1

Yah...yourself first, others' battles are theirs to fight. Not yours.

I am (casually by design, mine LOL and yes I know not the most healthy thing) involved with someone who is probably a drug/alcohol addict. He's considerate enough to stay sober around me and knows that's all I ask. His using/drinking is not my problem and I will not make it mine.

Weasel1966

I hear you and agree. But we are classic alcoholics in that we isolated. We always used the excuse that we need to be around people. Lol that's a crock.... So we used to feed off each others weakness.

That is changing. And we had a long talk today. We both seem to want the same thing.

I was really firm about not taking on his battle. It would suck to have to end this if he was not ready now to quite. I cannot go on as an alcoholic and user any more. It's just not possible.

Hevyn

You're evolving and growing before our eyes. Some pain comes along with that, I've found. It doesn't last though. It will all be worth it.

sugarbear1

Have you thought about in person support at this time? Maybe consider getting to AA for some company? Meet some people to go out and do sober things with? Your hubby needs to have his own journey to recovery....

Stick around here, too, Weasel, I love your posts!