Brandon84

Hello. I'm Brandon and I'm starting my recovery once again. The longest I've been sober was a year and a half which ended about a year ago. It was good wholesome times. It's not going to be easy, though. My wife insists on keeping alcohol in the house. I don't think she gets it...at all. Must stay strong.

Hevyn

Excellent decision, Brandon. SR is a great place to come because we all get it. You're not alone in this. Congratulations on wanting a better life. We're here to help.

Dee74

Hi Brandon - welcome

I'm sorry your wife won't get rid of the alcohol, but that needn't be a dealbreaker for you

What are your plans to stay sober?

D

Anna

Welcome, Brandon!

I'm glad you found us and that you've decided to live a sober life. It's very hard for others to understand what we're going through, so that's a good reason to come here. We do understand.

IndaMiricale

Well said.

Alan111

Hi Brendon. Does your wife know the extent of your drink problem?

debsam

Hey Brandon,

Yes, it's too bad that your wife doesn't get it....but we do.

We're here for you.

Great support on this site - welcome!

hypochondriac

Hey Brandon, welcome to SR

I'm sure you will find lots of help here. There are many members here whose partners still drink and others who have had to overcome similar obstacles to their sobriety.

How did you keep yourself sober for that year and a half?

Brandon84

I stayed sober for a year and a half by AA and my own will power. I don't necessarily agree with everything about AA, but it's still a support system that helps. It's hard because my wife brings beer home. She even asked me to hold her beer she was drinking yesterday, geez. I've talked and talked and I can't seem to get through to her. I don't want her to quit drinking, but I would like her to take a break until I get my sobriety on the road. I dunno. Sometimes I feel like a drama queen when it comes to this drinking stuff. Blah.

hypochondriac

I feel like a drama queen too sometimes, but then I think that is our addictive voice which is trying to make us 'stop making a fuss and just have a drink'! Obviously it would be nice if people around us would be more considerate but we can't control what other people chose to do, 'Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change' and all that

Are you going to go back to AA meetings or look at other stuff? x

2granddaughters

I think you have that backwards if you want it to work.....

I had to come to rely on the program and NOT my willpower, it was my willpower that got me here in the first place.

The only positive will power I exert today is to get to the meetings regularly.

I have many friends who got/stayed sober for decades while their spouses drank. I have friends who continued to bar-tend and stay sober (I don't recommend that) and friends who retired from working at Hiram Walker (Canadian Club) in Windsor.

I wish you the best.

Bob R

Live2Run25

Welcome. It does suck about your wife, but this is your journey. I personally, do not want everyone to change just for me. I told my boyfriend he can still drink if he wants.. he still keeps a 6 pack in the house. I have realized that I CAN'T drink.

There is plenty of support here.

sugarbear1

Welcome to SR!

Have you tried to have a heart to heart with your spouse?

Brandon84

I don't want anyone to change either, but sometimes it seems that it would be a lot easier not having it in your life at all. At times just want to say "fook off" and go my own way.