Socializing is tough
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Socializing is tough
Had my first social experience since stopping drinking a month ago. Had a few (3) people over, one close friend and two others that I don't know very well. I had a really hard time with anxiety. Kept getting up to ruin in the house to "do stuff" when really i was just escaping for a bit every time. Eventually things got better. Funny thing is, I never craved a drink, i did think though how sitting in a group of people was easier when I was drinking. I guess small doses of exposure therapy will straighten me out. Right now I am a wreck when it comes to socializing.
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Originally Posted by Songtx 
I guess small doses of exposure therapy will straighten me out.
Glad to hear you made it through with the guest being there. Thats a good step forward.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
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It's nice to have a bottle of water to hang on to . I used to hide behind a "comfort blanket" of ciggarettes or alcohol .
To have a "light sabre" of water can be a good substitute and you can always use the excuse of drinking too much water to dissapear to the toilet and have a quite moment to compose yourself .
To have a "light sabre" of water can be a good substitute and you can always use the excuse of drinking too much water to dissapear to the toilet and have a quite moment to compose yourself .
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Since getting sober, I've found that I'm not really a social butterfly like some people are. I think I felt like I should be more that way, that maybe it was because I lacked self-confidence or whatever. In reality, though, I think I just have preferences - I enjoy some activities/people more than others, and I also enjoy doing things on my own.
It's kinda nice getting to know myself again. It's definitely a process, though. Just take things as you feel comfortable with them. Congrats on your month sober!
It's kinda nice getting to know myself again. It's definitely a process, though. Just take things as you feel comfortable with them. Congrats on your month sober!
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Join Date: Jul 2012
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Hi Artsoul
I totally agree with you. I haven't been sober very long but I am finding one of the best things about my sobriety is getting to know me.
Time alone is great now. And yes I have found I can now make choices and my self esteem and confidence is starting to grow.
Thank you for sharing your feelings, it's always so nice to know others think and feel like I do
Socialising can be difficult but I have taken the little by little approach, not too many social events and now being sober and having my car with me I can leave when I feel I need to
I totally agree with you. I haven't been sober very long but I am finding one of the best things about my sobriety is getting to know me.
Time alone is great now. And yes I have found I can now make choices and my self esteem and confidence is starting to grow.
Thank you for sharing your feelings, it's always so nice to know others think and feel like I do
Socialising can be difficult but I have taken the little by little approach, not too many social events and now being sober and having my car with me I can leave when I feel I need to
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I always used to drink at parties, or quizes or other get togethers. Indeed, I think the first time I was at a get together when I didn't was when I went with a bunch of the other folks for a Chinese meal after an AA meeting. And it was the best time I'd had in ages. [Apart from game evenings, but they aren't the same thing. And there were a few of those where I drank... Which may be why I fell out with my old game group.]
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