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hi everyone, i have been sober over 6 months 2x but relapsed i am almost 1 month free of alochol again. the worst part for me is being lonley i lost all my friends and know i can see them all if i go to the bar, but i can't, so how do you go about meeting new people?
Welcome to the forums. I'm in the same boat about meeting people since i've moved to a new area. I'm looking at hanging out at coffee shops, going to small local events, picking up some new/old hobbies (i used to knit so i'm looking at joining or starting a Stitch and Bitch group). I hope that helps.
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hi everyone, i have been sober over 6 months 2x but relapsed i am almost 1 month free of alochol again. the worst part for me is being lonley i lost all my friends and know i can see them all if i go to the bar, but i can't, so how do you go about meeting new people?
Welcome conrad, losing my friends bothered me in the beginning, but almost 2 years later my old friends are the least of my concerns. I have made new friends and some of the drink, but I have made it clear to everybody I meet I don't drink. Some accept it, some don't. The loneliness will work itself out with time.
I've been 'online dating'. The first date is easy to suggest meeting for coffee or going for a walk. If there is a connection, then the absence of alcohol shouldn't matter. Most girls I have been out with were fine with not meeting for drinks. So there's one option...
thanx for all the quick replies, maby if we all wore a bandana like a gang or something lol it would be alot easier, to see who is approachable, i also have ptsd and anxiety, so this is cool because i know the people here are similar to me, but outside it's hard to figure out who you can approach
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thanx for all the quick replies, maby if we all wore a bandana like a gang or something lol it would be alot easier, to see who is approachable, i also have ptsd and anxiety, so this is cool because i know the people here are similar to me, but outside it's hard to figure out who you can approach
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But yea, finding new friends is tough, because it's not like you just want to hang out with anyone because they don't drink, they still have to have similar interests to you. My gf doesn't drink much at all and has some friends that don't drink, but they have nothing in common with me. They hate sports, they hate the stupid movies I like, the tv shows I like, etc. They are excruciatingly boring to hang out with. I'm just attracted to things that typically people who like to drink are attracted too.
So if you find a way to find new friends that share your interests that do not drink, let me know!
i am 30 yr old male in great shape that loves the outdoors and anything dangerous or adventerous, is there a group for poeple who love girls and a good time that dosent involve alochol................?
Hi Conrad - welcome
I've never used them - but a lot of cities now have sober meetup groups - as I understand it, the focus is on friendship, not hooking up - but that's probably no bad thing for a while... staying sober is hard enough
google sober meetups and you'll find a lot of hits in various cities
Congratulations on your month
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I've never used them - but a lot of cities now have sober meetup groups - as I understand it, the focus is on friendship, not hooking up - but that's probably no bad thing for a while... staying sober is hard enough
google sober meetups and you'll find a lot of hits in various cities
Congratulations on your month
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I'm having the same problem. There's a local music venue here that has music and zero alcohol. I thought about going there. It's a Christian based venue and I am not Christian but I think it might be good for me as oppose to the bar life.
thanx
thanx again for all your replies, i think maby we need to try to do something about this,you all must have a passion and drive otherwise we would have not been addicts,lol serisouly in the next few dys lets try to just come up with ideas, brainstorming, via e mail or maby web cast, i dont know but lets try to do something maby we should post this somewhere else,btw i suck at typing and computer stuff
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