Sungrl

I am currently trying to detatch for AB of two years, we have been living apart for 8 months. He lives in a hotel one block away from his favorite dive bar, and the people that surround him are all pretty much welfare drunks.
I do not call him anymore, he calls me and I do not answer, if I feel the urge. It's just to hear for myself that he is wasted again. I don't know why I need to do that. I'm sure he is drunk. It just makes me feel better I guess, to justify why I have to let him go. I want to stop this madness........ Just need
affirmation I have made the right decision. He is spiraling out of control and I can't watch it anymore.

Katiekate

I don't think you need help,

You are doing the right thing, you have been mostly free of him for 8 months.

Block him on your phone and move forward with your life.

You can not make a postive change for him if that is what you are thinking, that lies firmly on his shoulders.

He has choosen his path right now, you get to choose yours.

Pelican

Welcome to the SR family!

Have you heard of the 3 C's of his addiction?
They are :

You did not Cause this
You can not Control this
You will not Cure this

This addiction/recovery/consequences belongs to the adult with the problem.

Have you tried Alanon meetings for face-to-face support?

What are some things you are doing to help yourself recover from this relationship?

Busyb

Your making/made a good choice for you both. In the program we practice helping other when we are consumed with problems we have no control over. Try doing a good deed for someone that needs it and thats trying to help themselves and leave the rest to a higher power to work out. Best of luck and hope to hear good news from you soon.