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Oh man, I don't know what to tell you...but I sympathize. That'd be really hard for me, too. I would be really tempted to approach them - in a non-confrontational manner - and ask them if they could try to take measures to prevent the smoke smell from affecting the rest of the building. Putting a towel under the door often helps...but yeah, I'd be really tempted to say something to try to protect my sobriety.
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I knocked on their door and was really nice and said I really dont know how to say this but I am in recovery and the house smells like weed. I said I don't care what you do - maybe do it outside the house so my apt doesnt smell like it. Of course she denied it and said she only smokes cigs - big difference in the smells.
What did you expect? Sorry. I have young punks smoking on the balcony across from my little yard, they even hold the baggie up high...
I no longer use my binoculars to get high vicariously..
They're just loud...
I no longer use my binoculars to get high vicariously..
They're just loud...
Hmmm....just musing, thinking about how I would have reacted, both to the person and in my own head and behavior, if someone came to my door and said that when I was still using.
I know it's rough, and I know the world is full of triggers. And you had every right to speak up. So I am not suggesting you shouldn't have spoken to the neighbor. But looking into the future, and me speaking to myself on the subject, learning to deal with triggers is one of those things in recovery.
What's cool is that you identified a trigger, came here with the situation, and handled it in a really healthy confrontation. I am very impressed.
I have been clean (this time) for about four months, and am facing my triggers, which is a nice change for me, because previously I was more about running away from my triggers. As I work my recovery program I am learning to face things. So many of my situations were caused by my bizarre avoidance of any manner of confrontation, even good ones.
Yesterday I had a trigger, and instead of running, I was able to stop and think about it, about why I felt the urge in that situation, and what else could I do other than use, obsess over using, feel sorry for myself for NOT using...that might actually help.
That was a step for me. I spent my life running away from things when I was using, I don't want to spend my sober life running away.
Keep us posted on what the neighbors do!
I know it's rough, and I know the world is full of triggers. And you had every right to speak up. So I am not suggesting you shouldn't have spoken to the neighbor. But looking into the future, and me speaking to myself on the subject, learning to deal with triggers is one of those things in recovery.
What's cool is that you identified a trigger, came here with the situation, and handled it in a really healthy confrontation. I am very impressed.
I have been clean (this time) for about four months, and am facing my triggers, which is a nice change for me, because previously I was more about running away from my triggers. As I work my recovery program I am learning to face things. So many of my situations were caused by my bizarre avoidance of any manner of confrontation, even good ones.
Yesterday I had a trigger, and instead of running, I was able to stop and think about it, about why I felt the urge in that situation, and what else could I do other than use, obsess over using, feel sorry for myself for NOT using...that might actually help.
That was a step for me. I spent my life running away from things when I was using, I don't want to spend my sober life running away.
Keep us posted on what the neighbors do!
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