Is manipulation learned? Body Language Question
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Is manipulation learned? Body Language Question
Is manipulation a learned/developed trait or skill?
The problem one not only likes to talk fast & first to ram home his point he also gives a mild head nod up and down as to plant the suggestion yes his idea is a good idea. He also likes to slowy point a finger at you as he is making his point. He even says things like his view or idea is a better idea. And always tries to belittle or berate you as well.
Most of the time we just ignore but if you don't challenge him not only does he really think he has his way or is right he challanges you even harder simply because you didn't respond to him on que.
Is manipulation or using the power of suggestion a learned trait or this is natural body language?
The problem one not only likes to talk fast & first to ram home his point he also gives a mild head nod up and down as to plant the suggestion yes his idea is a good idea. He also likes to slowy point a finger at you as he is making his point. He even says things like his view or idea is a better idea. And always tries to belittle or berate you as well.
Most of the time we just ignore but if you don't challenge him not only does he really think he has his way or is right he challanges you even harder simply because you didn't respond to him on que.
Is manipulation or using the power of suggestion a learned trait or this is natural body language?
When someone rants and raves talking fast and loud, I love to just wait until they are done, look them in the eye and say "could you repeat that please?"
This is best done with a good pair of Nikes on, and an open door not far away
I love Cynical One's reply because I know that I too have been guilty of the drama gestures to catch attention.
Either side, it's not pretty and it IS manipulative.
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This is best done with a good pair of Nikes on, and an open door not far away
I love Cynical One's reply because I know that I too have been guilty of the drama gestures to catch attention.
Either side, it's not pretty and it IS manipulative.
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One of his power of suggestion techniques or plant the seed of desperate need is he'll talk about things like how the homeless live off beef gravy, he's lost soo much weight lately or a flatout I'm starving yet still driving a luxary car, still plenty of belly left and enough money for sport drinks AND name brand stuff(no generics or dollar menu yet).
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One of his power of suggestion techniques or plant the seed of desperate need is he'll talk about things like how the homeless live off beef gravy, he's lost soo much weight lately or a flatout I'm starving yet still driving a luxary car, still plenty of belly left and enough money for sport drinks AND name brand stuff(no generics or dollar menu yet).
well to me he just sounds like an addict all jacked up on something. talking fast, talking over other people, rambling, not making sense. i think the question perhaps should be not so much about HIS behavior and what drives it, but instead how to stop letting it affect you. you could start by NOT LISTENING to his nonsensical garbage. not giving him the microphone and spot light on stage. detaching and letting him have his own existence and preserving your own sanity!
well to me he just sounds like an addict all jacked up on something. talking fast, talking over other people, rambling, not making sense. i think the question perhaps should be not so much about HIS behavior and what drives it, but instead how to stop letting it affect you. you could start by NOT LISTENING to his nonsensical garbage. not giving him the microphone and spot light on stage. detaching and letting him have his own existence and preserving your own sanity!
Forgot to add he was always a hothead but as far as things like an affirmative head nod or planting the seeds for his suggestion started as an older adult. Since he spent alot of time in management I'm wondering if he was taught that as to sell an idea at a meeting not that it matters.
I'm thinking more & more there is more than alcohol,steroids and sports supplements at work here. He's had huge debts for well over a decade with a very good job and no mortgage. I saw where Dr Drew is treating the steroid guy Jeremy Jackson like a stimulant addict so would it be safe to assume that a steroid user would be more likely to use stimulants? I hope that's not the case because Jackson had a history of meth use.
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bottomless pits never end
You can ignore the substance but if he percieves you are ignoring him he's get's even madder. His attempts for sympathy and money are so blatantly obvious and lame it's funny but dare not laugh in front of him.
my point is to not even be around someone who behaves like that. to what end? why give him someone to spout off to? why continue to engage? you've talked about this person and all the things you suspect are WRONG with him...i think that part is clear now, why not just leave him be and not have such a toxic individual IN your life? you have that choice.
my point is to not even be around someone who behaves like that. to what end? why give him someone to spout off to? why continue to engage? you've talked about this person and all the things you suspect are WRONG with him...i think that part is clear now, why not just leave him be and not have such a toxic individual IN your life? you have that choice.
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