What they understand at the tender age of 6
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What they understand at the tender age of 6
My story is uncannily similar to that reef break guy.
Alcoholic wife, struggling to get into recovery properly, temporarily separated two daughters 6 and 16.
Have to share this conversation I had in the van on the way to school this morning with my dear daughter aged 6.
I have just wound back sleepovers at Mom’s after renewed use of the bottle at that house.
DD6: “Why are we not sleeping at Mom’s anymore?”
VJ: “I’m afraid Mom is still sometimes drinking and you remember how she can’t be a proper mom when she does that”
DD6 (quickly countering) “No she isn’t. I’m God’s helper and he can do everything”
VJ: “It’d up to mom to stop it, me you and xxxx (DD16) can’t do it for her”
DD6: “Well how is she going to stop?”
VJ: “When she goes to meetings and goes to see the councillors, they teach her ways to try to stop, and when and if she works hard on her programme...”
DD6:”Oh, I see”
VJ: “Mom is working on it and it seems to be less and less that it happens”
DD6: “At least it’s less and less then”
VJ: “Thanks for asking about it love”
Her mood picked up right after that. I was told by the therapist* my DD6 saw and also my own therapist, that the best thing I can be is open and honest, so that they don’t build up blame of them-selves.
Just wanted to share. Thanks for listening
*6 year old did a six week programme of 1 hour expressive play through sand box games, fantastic
Alcoholic wife, struggling to get into recovery properly, temporarily separated two daughters 6 and 16.
Have to share this conversation I had in the van on the way to school this morning with my dear daughter aged 6.
I have just wound back sleepovers at Mom’s after renewed use of the bottle at that house.
DD6: “Why are we not sleeping at Mom’s anymore?”
VJ: “I’m afraid Mom is still sometimes drinking and you remember how she can’t be a proper mom when she does that”
DD6 (quickly countering) “No she isn’t. I’m God’s helper and he can do everything”
VJ: “It’d up to mom to stop it, me you and xxxx (DD16) can’t do it for her”
DD6: “Well how is she going to stop?”
VJ: “When she goes to meetings and goes to see the councillors, they teach her ways to try to stop, and when and if she works hard on her programme...”
DD6:”Oh, I see”
VJ: “Mom is working on it and it seems to be less and less that it happens”
DD6: “At least it’s less and less then”
VJ: “Thanks for asking about it love”
Her mood picked up right after that. I was told by the therapist* my DD6 saw and also my own therapist, that the best thing I can be is open and honest, so that they don’t build up blame of them-selves.
Just wanted to share. Thanks for listening
*6 year old did a six week programme of 1 hour expressive play through sand box games, fantastic
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I think you explained it perfectly. Also, it's great that you got her into that 6 week program. I wish someone would have done that for my sister and I when we were younger, maybe I'd be able to deal with my alcoholic mother better if I had.
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