i think im codependant
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i think im codependant
oh my gawd someone just mentioned this and i am it feels so right i read it on wikipedia "Codependence is described as a disease that originates in dysfunctional families where children learn to overcompensate for their parents' disorders and develop an excessive sensitivity to others' needs."
plus in reference to "Codependent No More" a book wikipedia says this book "made the notion of addiction to a person (who was addicted to a substance or a behavioral process) part of the western cultural lexicon."
mitterfracking gawd im off for a coffee-this is gonna take some time to deal with <shock and awe>
plus in reference to "Codependent No More" a book wikipedia says this book "made the notion of addiction to a person (who was addicted to a substance or a behavioral process) part of the western cultural lexicon."
mitterfracking gawd im off for a coffee-this is gonna take some time to deal with <shock and awe>
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well i am too. Because of my dysfunctional family growing up, i went on to study social care. ME doing social care - people never thought they would see the day Ha!!
withing social care, you besically look after the needs of others... so i think ive hit the codependancy nail on the head !!!
But i am happy i done it as now it has opened my eyes and led me on to a different direction that i truely enjoy...
CheekyAngel....
withing social care, you besically look after the needs of others... so i think ive hit the codependancy nail on the head !!!
But i am happy i done it as now it has opened my eyes and led me on to a different direction that i truely enjoy...
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Hi Kevin
There are some sub-forums down south that address issues relating to codependency - the Friends and Family of Alcoholics and Substance Abusers, as well as the Adult Children of Addicted/Alcoholic Parents sub-forum.
Personally, I'm just a generally cross-addict and dependent junkie - there are very few things (including people) that I have not been dependent on throughout my life. I realized my codependency about three months ago and it pulled out a whole mess of stuff from under the rock.
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There are some sub-forums down south that address issues relating to codependency - the Friends and Family of Alcoholics and Substance Abusers, as well as the Adult Children of Addicted/Alcoholic Parents sub-forum.
Personally, I'm just a generally cross-addict and dependent junkie - there are very few things (including people) that I have not been dependent on throughout my life. I realized my codependency about three months ago and it pulled out a whole mess of stuff from under the rock.
My general reaction was:
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Yes, absolutely as Dee said.
My Codependency (which I was completely unaware of) led me to addiction. I began my recovery, and only after several years of moving forward and working on myself, did I realize that I was codependent and that I had more areas of myself to look at and work on. I was truly shocked. I always believed that doing everything for my children and my husband was the right thing. It was selfless. Wrong. Sadly, part of the reason I was doing those things was so that I would find value in myself.
My Codependency (which I was completely unaware of) led me to addiction. I began my recovery, and only after several years of moving forward and working on myself, did I realize that I was codependent and that I had more areas of myself to look at and work on. I was truly shocked. I always believed that doing everything for my children and my husband was the right thing. It was selfless. Wrong. Sadly, part of the reason I was doing those things was so that I would find value in myself.
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Unresolved patterns of codependency can lead to more serious problems like alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, sex addiction, and other self-destructive or self-defeating behaviors.
For some, the social insecurity caused by codependency can progress into full-blown social anxiety disorders like social phobia. - Quoted from wikapedia..
That explains why i suffer social anxiety and the hurdles i jump!!! I knew very little about it untill i read up some more things there.
Im actully shocked at how much codependancy can interfere with our lives. Its sad...especially for the young who have no control or power over their situation...
For some, the social insecurity caused by codependency can progress into full-blown social anxiety disorders like social phobia. - Quoted from wikapedia..
That explains why i suffer social anxiety and the hurdles i jump!!! I knew very little about it untill i read up some more things there.
Im actully shocked at how much codependancy can interfere with our lives. Its sad...especially for the young who have no control or power over their situation...
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