Teenie

He sent me an e-mail @ 5:30AM saying "I miss waking up to your stanky ass breath" As much as it stung, i obstained and didn't respond and just deleted it.

Live

wow. that totally reflects on him and what kind of person he is....
it says nothing about you.
I consider that verbal abuse.

Teenie

he always told me i was immature and too much of a child. But than he goes around and says things like this. I'm pretty sure he just wanted some sort of reaction/attention from me because in the back of that twisted little mind of his, he still cares about me and knows he messed up. So I'm giving him what he doesn't want.

Live

I hope you get to the point where you don't want to talk to someone who talks to you like that..whether they miss you or not.
My dad used to say you can want in one hand and sh!t in the other and see which fills up first.
That would be what I would be saying to myself about what he wants if he talked to me like that...all hypothetically speaking, of course.

Teenie

no. I don't want to talk to him when he talks to me like that. I learned a long time ago not to give him the attention he wants when he talks like that to me. I used to react, which is why he still does it. Because he knows how it used to get to me and how angry it would make me.

ladyamalthea

Stay strong girl! You got this!

Live

Yeah....the first thing that came to my mind was a bunch of comebacks! lol

Teenie

infact, i reported his e-mail as spam. Dunno what doing that does, but it sure felt good when i did it. ^__^

Live

good for you ....it will automatically redirect his emails to that other inbox/spam place that I never even look at.

outtolunch

Deleting and reporting as spam is mature stuff.

Rationalizing what he said is codependent stuff.

Messages like the one he sent are not worthy of any consideration.

ZombieWife

Sounds like he was joking and trying to be cute in order to get you to respond. I don't think I would call that "verbal abuse." My friends (and husband) and I joke like that, but we know we are all kidding. Maybe he's never done that before and is trying to be silly.

I wouldn't call human services just yet.

What I think is important here is that regardless of the nature of the message, you didn't respond and you held your own.

Angelic17

Well Teenie, what ever his problem is, is his problem. Not Yours. You seem like your over it, and that's a great thing. Power to you honey. Relationships end in life, and it's not the end of the world. Some people hold on to bad relationships out of fear of change. You seem fearless, and I admire that. Good for you.

wow1323

Change phone number

Teenie

first off, I'm not rationalizing anything. I'm just saying that he's doing this because he knows he messed up and the only reason he can think of to try to get my attention, is to send me immature e-mails that he knows might tick me off because he's taking notice that my attention has faltered and has taken notice that I'm taking control of my life once again w/out him in the picture.



secondly, he only acts like that and sends e-mails, texts, etc. like that when he's high and/or irritated and acting crazy. As I've experienced many, many times. It's not him trying to be cute in the least.

Thirdly, He hasn't tried to call me, so i shouldn't have to change my phone number. If he DOES try to call me and it gets out of hand, I'll change my number.

Lola1024

Oh good grief - IGNORE, DELETE. :ghug3

coffeedrinker

glad you're doing the right thing, teenie