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question!
I have thought that in my road to recovery, I need to meet new, decent people. So my question is: WHere do you meet new, decent people? The thought of hanging out in a bar sickens me. I do go to church. Go to the gym alot. I just want to be around positive people!!!
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I've taken up running over the past year. Runners are really cool people, positive, but not too goody-goody, funny, witty, and very encouraging souls. Most follow very healthy lifestyles. They LOVE it when other people start to run.
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I have been advised to join clubs, go to the gym, meet people through friends, etc. Stay away from the bar scene or you will wind up with the same stuff you just got out of.
I am so limited with time because I have a toddler full time, but I am getting out more.
I am so limited with time because I have a toddler full time, but I am getting out more.
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Alanon, at the dog park, meeting people through other healthy friends, my spiritual community. I've gotten better at asking people for their e-mail address if I've just met them and am interested in getting to know them better because they have a positive "vibe".
What a great question to be asking yourself!
posie
What a great question to be asking yourself!
posie
ok I'm biased. 
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I'm not a socially-phobic or awkward person, for the most part. Even so, actually meeting and connecting with people is a challenge for me if I'm just "out there" hoping to find future friends.
I have met people easily, and made friendships, when I've become involved in something. That common bond is what is necessary, I believe. And intentionality is also very helpful. Meaning, a group that meets for primarily social purposes, i.e. book club, "after the alanon meeting" meeting, or "Events & Adventures" - just for socializing and meeting people, NOT dating. Going on a church retreat for women, or just to a church function where there's an objective (filling bags for the shelter, doing yardwork)
has been a great way to connect with other, likely healthier people.
Good luck, and persevere.....
Christine
I have met people easily, and made friendships, when I've become involved in something. That common bond is what is necessary, I believe. And intentionality is also very helpful. Meaning, a group that meets for primarily social purposes, i.e. book club, "after the alanon meeting" meeting, or "Events & Adventures" - just for socializing and meeting people, NOT dating. Going on a church retreat for women, or just to a church function where there's an objective (filling bags for the shelter, doing yardwork)
has been a great way to connect with other, likely healthier people.
Good luck, and persevere.....
Christine
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Well, we have no local Alanon group, but I have my AA home group. This coming Saturday is our annual campfire meeting at a nice little lake 10 miles west of town. We get good attendance from AA and Alanon both from all over the area. Entire families come, many bring their fishing poles.
Our 'resident' AA chef brings his nice grill and does up the burgers. Everyone else brings a covered dish. It's a really nice social event, and we have a speaker meeting after we eat.
Most of my friends are in recovery in some form or another, and I couldn't ask for a better group of friends.
Our 'resident' AA chef brings his nice grill and does up the burgers. Everyone else brings a covered dish. It's a really nice social event, and we have a speaker meeting after we eat.
Most of my friends are in recovery in some form or another, and I couldn't ask for a better group of friends.
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