Bored3

Nights are the worst for me. I haven't been sleeping well and in the past I could go all day and not worry about drinking, because I had my bottle waiting for me when it got to night time. A couple of glasses watching the TV and then when I get to my room I can have a few and that could lead to a lot depending on how tired I am.

I find it hard to lose this. And it's not about the lack of sleep, I can easily take meds for that, it's the whole comfort of waiting for me when I get to bed, not to get wasted but just to enjoy a couple while I finish my book or surf a few websites, the softner at the end of the day. I don't have a partner to talk to, I'm just empty and alone, that helps.

Any suggestions?

Bamboozle

Find something healthy to replace the booze.

And it takes time getting used to a new routine.

There's almost always people in chat at SR. If you want someone to talk to at night, how about going into chat?

least

Here is a link to the insomnia forum. HOpe it can be some help to you.

Insomnia/Nightmares - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

smacked

Honestly, BED and sleep became my comfort at the end of a long day..sometimes a cookie or two lol. When I firat sobered up, the gym became my daily reward and wind down, and bedtime was a treat, id zonk out fast!

Kerbcrawler

a cup of tea,and a nicotine lozenger...my major vices..replacing nightly booze..day 13 today..a little agitataion..goin on..easily snapping with my little one..pushin my patience to the limit..., my past antidote would be a large one,down the hatch...swiftly followed by many more...i share your predicament! evening ritual replacement therapy.. its a toughy..needs to be handled this time round...stayin on the case of resolution, to the drink free solution,sat/sun..two nights..that have a long history of blackout syndrome,...turnin this round, sure gonna take some doin..gotta be done..
best of luck..to you others also.

artsoul

What's working for me right now: coming to SR, sipping herbal teas (Yogi teas like "Calming" and "Bedtime"), books, TV..... but especially thinking of how I'll feel to wake up sober. The time will go by eventually. I used to tell my children that at nighttime things always seems a little more magnified/harder, and I think it's true. I'm also just trying to remember that the more I practice doing something sober, the easier it will become. Everything right now feels a little strange, so I understand where you're coming from.

crisco

This place normally has always somebody in it (Community Video Chat)

Try intherooms.com as well

Anna

Recovery is about finding new ways to deal with emotions, and it just takes a little time. Try to change your night-time routine - maybe go for a walk, listen to some music or read a book till you're sleepy. It's not easy, but you can do it.

coffeenut

Early sobriety is all about learning how to do things sober. One of those things is sleep. So, I guess just know that you will be making some adjustments there....and until you get it figured out, don't let it drive you nuts, because you will figure it out.

Like others have said....get to the gym, take a walk...make sure you're tired when you go to bed. A nice calming tea....and know you're going to wake up Sober....is the best.

Dee74

I agree - changing routine is good - I found a little exercise before bed was good - alternatively I'd come to SR until I got sleepy

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Kmber2010

Here ya on that bored. When I quit, well I was literally alone. I couldn't sleep and had massive panic/anxiety. I found that coming to SR right before bed comforted me and let me know that I had others going through what I was dealing with. It totally helped.

Once I got beyond the initial shock of detox...this is what I did that helped me. I cleaned out my bedroom and put all fresh bedding on. I would turn my table lamp next to my bed once it started getting dark. Had some freaky thing about going into the dark bedroom. Then after chatting, posting, etc. I would go in and read one of my self help books and it totally calmed me down and made the transitioning to sleep a bit easier. Keep in mind I had to go about 2 1/2 weeks before I began to actually go to bed and sleep. I feel your pain believe me I do. Waking up or just lying and staring at the ceiling is brutal.

Head out to your local bookstore and spy out some reads. Anything pleasant would work I found books on quitting smoking (another habit I have) and books on improving outlook on life makes me feel good.

All the best~

Norther

Embarrassing to say, but sweets help, along with any and everything to change your routine. I also took ambien occasionally (by prescription): it's pretty effective and gives no high whatsoever, so it didn''t make me feel guilty. The main thing, though, is to know that it does get easier in a relatively short time, a matter of days maybe a week or two.