Full Review: Melvin M. Belli et al - Divorcing Books
Change can sometimes be painful, even if it is change for the better. Our natural desire often tells us to stay in our comfort zone leaving the difficult decision for later. Even if the known is not good for us, at least it is known and somehow knowing is half the battle. The book Divorcing by Mel Krantzler, Ph.D., Melvin M. Belli, Sr. and Christopher S. Taylor provides the reader with some of the latest information about divorce.

Famous attorney Melvin Belli and psychological counselor Mel Krantzler join together to give helpful information on how to deal with the emotional, psychological, social, economic and legal difficulties of divorce. This paperback book published in 1992 through St. Martin’s Paperbacks is a model choice if you are considering divorce.

Melvin Belli explains the frightening legal landscapes of divorce charting readers through the scary terrain. In chapter one he explains his own personal story of divorce. Belli comes from a traditional two-parent background initially believing family life was forever. However despite his deep ardent family and religious beliefs he has been divorced four times. He also admits his remorse regarding the pain his children endured when he divorced.

Mel Krantzler shares his own personal experience telling how his 1970 divorce became a creative experience allowing him to form a self-help group. Krantzler stresses the importance of forgiving himself and his former spouse.

Chapter two deals with the facts and myths associated with divorce. Krantzler provides thoughtful advice regarding the problems people face in the process of deciding to get a divorce. Indecision, of course, is a part of life with mixed feelings when it comes to divorce. This chapter dives into the reality people in distressed marriage's face. The vicious circle that indecision creates is mentally and physically exhausting. This book unravels some of the mysteries helping the reader understand the emotional turmoil, legal questions, and other problems that you will confront as you move forward in the separation process. The book also presents a good framework for evaluating your situation and deciding whether or not you are a future divorcee.

In chapters three, six, eight, ten, Attorney Melvin Belli provides clear and detailed legal advice regarding the various legalities associated with divorce. He touches upon child custody, child snatching, physical violence Palimony. Belli does an excellent job explaining the complex legal issues however it’s important that the reader understand he is not a therapist.

Despite his best advice a lawyer is not a referee, a policeman, or patron saint. Mel Krantzler, PhD fills in the gaps in chapters seven, nine, eleven, twelve, and fourteen separating the legal and therapeutic needs encountered during this process. When it comes to the children, this presents special problems. By the authors mentioning the children sensitivities regarding a divorce the reader is better able to protect them. Although Krantzler is extremely helpful, the sad reality is that the children will be affected for life.

Krantzler does an excellent job addressing issues separating or divorcing couples will have to face. Krantzler does an excellent job in chapter thirteen tackling the process of finding a new lasting relationship. For a person preoccupied with all the details that the divorce process brings i.e. the legal hassles, financial manipulation, and emotional upsets, any consideration of their physical or sexual needs is often put on the back burner. The frank and honest discussion regarding the emotional turmoil of being single again is refreshing.

This book also helps you begin to understand and deal with the emotional, cognitive, legal, custodial, and other issues that you will be confronted with when separation is on the agenda. The book also presents a good framework for evaluating your situation and deciding whether or not you are a future divorcee.

When divorce is the only way out this is the book you need to have. The collaboration of an attorney and psychologist address some of the most vital issues of divorce including deciding whether to divorce, dealing with the guilt, and sadness, legal questions are answered plus recommendations on choosing an attorney.