Sigh
Sigh
I guess it was a bad thing for me to show concern for XABF.
He emailed from Florida (where he is for his Fathers funeral) said he was in a hotel over-looking the ocean and said that WE should be there.
He also texted and said he missed me.
ARGH!
So now I feel like I can't even express a natural human emotion when it comes to him, if he's going to read into it!
I can't go completely NC as he and I have a son together.
He emailed from Florida (where he is for his Fathers funeral) said he was in a hotel over-looking the ocean and said that WE should be there.
He also texted and said he missed me.
ARGH!
So now I feel like I can't even express a natural human emotion when it comes to him, if he's going to read into it!
I can't go completely NC as he and I have a son together.
I've heard this so many times on this board, I can't even count. Usually it is an excuse to continue participating in the drama.
My XAH and I share two children. When we first separated, he constantly tried to get me to discuss "us." It took determination on my part, but I enforced my boundaries. Whenever our conversations got off the subject of children, or logistics or finances as pertained to the children, I ended the conversation. After about a month of sticking to it, he got the message. He stopped going there.
Yours will continue to go there as long as you keep dancing. Just because you have a child together, doesn't mean you have to participate in the dance. It's within your control.
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My XAH and I share two children. When we first separated, he constantly tried to get me to discuss "us." It took determination on my part, but I enforced my boundaries. Whenever our conversations got off the subject of children, or logistics or finances as pertained to the children, I ended the conversation. After about a month of sticking to it, he got the message. He stopped going there.
Yours will continue to go there as long as you keep dancing. Just because you have a child together, doesn't mean you have to participate in the dance. It's within your control.
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Could be she is healing and dealing with her life different than you did?! No need to cast a judgement. Support is not about throwing stones
I wasn't throwing stones. Just making an observation, and sharing my experience that you don't have to continue the alcoholic/codependent dance just because you have children together.
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