Step one for me
Step one for me
Hubby gets unemployment benefits, that he uses to buy his booze and smokes. I work, and my money goes to mortgage, bills, food, everything. This week, I got council rates to pay, and car rego, and that would leave me with nothing. Hubby said dont pay council rates this week, ask to pay them off. I knew what he was onto. he wanted me to register the car. Now, I dont need the car, as I am a push bike rider, but he relys on it, cos he can drive to the booze shop. Well, the council rates got paid, and the car can sit in the driveway, and he can wonder how he can get his booze now, seeing not only did I not register the car, while he was sleeping, i also hid both sets of car keys, so he cant illegally drive there.
My husband is an alcoholic but has always been a hard worker and bread winner. I really don't think I could handle living with a bum as well. Whats in this relationship for you?
Good for you for paying the council rates though.
Kudos to you for standing up for yourself.
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It sounds like you got to a place where you can say, "I don't deserve to be physically abused."
I would say you don't deserve to be mistreated, or with someone that is not an equal partner, or with someone that wastes your money, or does not respect you.
You deserve to be honored and respected. You deserve a partner that is an equal.
Are you buyin' it, yet?
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Sweetie, I hope you one day get to enjoy a real relationship, where partners are equal, and there is love, respect, honesty and support for and from each other.
Having some lazy, unproductive man using money on drink and dictating what bills not to pay is NOT showing you any love, respect, honesty and support.
For me...not being bashed by a partner, is not the be all and end all of a relationship, it would be only part of the relationship.
God bless
Having some lazy, unproductive man using money on drink and dictating what bills not to pay is NOT showing you any love, respect, honesty and support.
For me...not being bashed by a partner, is not the be all and end all of a relationship, it would be only part of the relationship.
God bless
I had this conversation with girl friends, women in their 30s and it is very sad, often we gather someone is "a good man" because he doesnt hit the woman, he is not addicted to hard drugs. Very sad state of affairs. I loved your decisive actions, now please be careful, usually addicts don't like when someone is not cooperating and cushioning things for them to continue the party.
Hugs!!
Hugs!!
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