left again!
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left again!
Ok well last night i left for the second time. He decided to start a fight with me after coming home drunk at midnight without so much as a call to tell me he is ok. He started picking at anything he thought he could use against me. Telling me that i am a loser and that i need to get my s**t together, Ha! Funny how he is the alcoholic but i am the one with the problem! He woke my son up with his loud obnoxious voice and then proceeded to tell my son he was ******** and stupid! He told me last night not to come back and that he hated me! Of course today he is texting me telling me he still loves me, what a joke! I told him good that he needs to get some help. Of course he is blaming me for everything and saying that he doesnt have a problem. I told him that he is verbally abusive and obviously doesnt see that alcohol is a problem for him. Trying to stay strong today even though i have had little sleep. I am tired of the cycle and want to get off this horrible ride.
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Butte, America
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well, hon ... you're safe.
he's not coming after you (right)
so you've got some work to do, huh?
The people of Alanon KNOW what some of those plans need to be.
I truly believe we need BOTH online,
as well as face 2 face (f2f) support when changing
our lives.
And that's what this is, right?
You do not make him drink.
You cannot make him stop.
This is not your doing.
But you can fix it.
You can make the world a safe place for you.
And he can't stop you.
You might need to make a decision as to moving forward
and leaving all this drama behind.
One thing I can tell you for sure -
you're not alone.
There's a TON of wisdom here,
and experience, strength and hope.
Keep posting, and we're right here!
he's not coming after you (right)
so you've got some work to do, huh?
The people of Alanon KNOW what some of those plans need to be.
I truly believe we need BOTH online,
as well as face 2 face (f2f) support when changing
our lives.
And that's what this is, right?
You do not make him drink.
You cannot make him stop.
This is not your doing.
But you can fix it.
You can make the world a safe place for you.
And he can't stop you.
You might need to make a decision as to moving forward
and leaving all this drama behind.
One thing I can tell you for sure -
you're not alone.
There's a TON of wisdom here,
and experience, strength and hope.
Keep posting, and we're right here!
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