Sorry my friends - I really need to vent
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Sorry my friends - I really need to vent
AAAAHHHHGGGGHHHHHH
Whew, this is incredible. Is it as personal as I feel it is?
Today, we have a gamut of assininity.
12:00 he wants to go spend time with a neighbor he does odd jobs for and wants me to go to the store to buy wine/cheese/crackers. I tell him it is impolite for us to drop by (I've met these 2 ladies twice...he sees them daily) so he calls them and comes out and tells me we have to be there in 1/2 hour. It is snowing I had to go to the market, being Christmas eve it was crowded and I had to park at the far end of the parking lot because it is crowded. We are both unemployed, I had to spend money I got for my Birthday on these people I barely know. We went, actually I had a good time they were pleasant we all had wine (including him - I felt it would kill the holiday for these ladies as well if I objected publicly) and snacks. They think he is the most wonderful man in the world...he does odd jobs for them and buys his booze and cigs with the $$ he makes there otherwise he doesn't work and contribute to the house....oh boy. Now we came home....it is storming out and he couldn't lite the grill (he says) to cook burgers...instead of cooking them in the kitchen he wants to cook them in the fireplace (he does build a good fire I'll concede) I tell him I don't want him to because of grease...dripping could cause a chimney fire....dripping grease across the carpet he goes into kitchen. I called and asked someone elses opinion on the cooking burgers in the living room, they had same concern I did...he storms off....not after many sour words were exchanged...why does he act like he is 12 years old? He says I'm just "trying to be right"
I'm so sick and tired of the constant fighting. I wouldn't have objected to the fireplace thing if I didn't seriously think it was a potential danger and smell up the house - and belive me now the whole house smells like grease!
Do we ever get a break? I guess not. So far he is 8 for 8 for ruined holidays every single one for eight years. I really really hate him, his behavior, his sham for the Mr. Nice Guy he projects to the outside world. I really hate him. He is very forceful - he wants what he wants when he wants it. No amount of objecting, or reasoning matters. If you disagree or counter all hell breaks loose. This is freiking ridiculous...I cannot get out of here fast enough. I really need to get out and away from him.
Thanks for listening.
Whew, this is incredible. Is it as personal as I feel it is?
Today, we have a gamut of assininity.
12:00 he wants to go spend time with a neighbor he does odd jobs for and wants me to go to the store to buy wine/cheese/crackers. I tell him it is impolite for us to drop by (I've met these 2 ladies twice...he sees them daily) so he calls them and comes out and tells me we have to be there in 1/2 hour. It is snowing I had to go to the market, being Christmas eve it was crowded and I had to park at the far end of the parking lot because it is crowded. We are both unemployed, I had to spend money I got for my Birthday on these people I barely know. We went, actually I had a good time they were pleasant we all had wine (including him - I felt it would kill the holiday for these ladies as well if I objected publicly) and snacks. They think he is the most wonderful man in the world...he does odd jobs for them and buys his booze and cigs with the $$ he makes there otherwise he doesn't work and contribute to the house....oh boy. Now we came home....it is storming out and he couldn't lite the grill (he says) to cook burgers...instead of cooking them in the kitchen he wants to cook them in the fireplace (he does build a good fire I'll concede) I tell him I don't want him to because of grease...dripping could cause a chimney fire....dripping grease across the carpet he goes into kitchen. I called and asked someone elses opinion on the cooking burgers in the living room, they had same concern I did...he storms off....not after many sour words were exchanged...why does he act like he is 12 years old? He says I'm just "trying to be right"
I'm so sick and tired of the constant fighting. I wouldn't have objected to the fireplace thing if I didn't seriously think it was a potential danger and smell up the house - and belive me now the whole house smells like grease!
Do we ever get a break? I guess not. So far he is 8 for 8 for ruined holidays every single one for eight years. I really really hate him, his behavior, his sham for the Mr. Nice Guy he projects to the outside world. I really hate him. He is very forceful - he wants what he wants when he wants it. No amount of objecting, or reasoning matters. If you disagree or counter all hell breaks loose. This is freiking ridiculous...I cannot get out of here fast enough. I really need to get out and away from him.
Thanks for listening.
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pray4,
I am so sorry you are in this current situation. I'm sitting here feeling blue that I'm alone at CHristmas....maybe I shouldn't feel so blue!
I moved too for mine....and as soon as thus semestre ends im transferring to a university back home near family and friends. I am in a place where I know no one and it has taken it's toll.
Is there any way you can contact family and will they possibly help you leave? I mean not just find an apartment, I mean relocate you back near them?
If there is anything I've realized it is how important a support system is. It may be a drastic move.....but sometimes drastic situations call for drastic measures.
Just a thought to preserve your well being and sanity. I wouldn't stay even near him if there's any way for you not too.
Sending you hugs!
I am so sorry you are in this current situation. I'm sitting here feeling blue that I'm alone at CHristmas....maybe I shouldn't feel so blue!
I moved too for mine....and as soon as thus semestre ends im transferring to a university back home near family and friends. I am in a place where I know no one and it has taken it's toll.
Is there any way you can contact family and will they possibly help you leave? I mean not just find an apartment, I mean relocate you back near them?
If there is anything I've realized it is how important a support system is. It may be a drastic move.....but sometimes drastic situations call for drastic measures.
Just a thought to preserve your well being and sanity. I wouldn't stay even near him if there's any way for you not too.
Sending you hugs!
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If only, I've asked and it isn't an option to get any help from family. I've explained in detail, explained my fear of becoming homeless...Nothing but sympathetic words. They live 2,000 miles away. My sister is living with my parents for the last couple years and she has drained them dry (legal/medical expenses she asked for their help with) and there is no room for me in their house. I'm on my own and it really sucks. (Wah and boo-hoo) At my age it feels weird also to ask for help but weirder even when you ask and they say no, they can't help.
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