intheknow

I am going to my first al-anon meeting tonite. I am truly scared. I know I will feel so much better after I have gone, but for right now...I am nervous.

(When I am afraid, my feet and nose turn into icecubes...and right now, things are pretty chilly!)

I think I can...I think I can...I think I can...

Freedom1990

My hands are like ice cubes when I'm afraid!

If I can plunge into college full-time at age 50, you can walk into the Alanon meeting tonight!

I know you can...I know you can...I know you can...

:ghug2

harleyd101

You will find much understanding there. There is nothing to fear but fear itself, and think of it as the beginning of your new life. Good luck and God bless!!!

GiveLove

We have a member here, mellane, who had soooo much trouble getting into an al-anon meeting. The first few times, she just sat out in the parking lot and cried. Then one day she made it to the porch; the next time, she put her hand on the door knob, and so on.

She eventually made it into that meeting and now is one of the healthiest and happiest among us....but my point is that most of us are scared witless the first time.

You're in good company (((( hugs )))

Bernadette

I was terrified too- then proceeded to bawl through the whole thing.
No one seemed surprised! People in meetings, the stuff I learned there, the collective energy and wisdom of the meetings themselves & the AlAnon program - saved my life!
I hope it goes well--if it's not a good "fit" keep trying - each meeting has its own personality.

peace & good luck and warm hugs to your nose and feet!!
b

transformyself

You can do it! Fear is just that, fear. It doesn't have to stop you from doing anything.

And GiveLove, have I told you how beautiful you are? You always say just the right thing. You never judge folks, are instead considerate. Thank you.

intheknow

I did it...I did it...I did it...

And I lived thru it. And I am going back.

Thank you all for your support!

GiveLove

Hugs to you, mellane ---- you did it!!!

(and thanks transform...don't make my head swell, now )

Jadmack25

See!! It wasn't as terrifying as your imagination almost had you convinced it would be, was it?

Return and get ready for a wonderfully enlightening journey thru Recovery and into Healing.

God bless

trapeze

I understand your hesitancy. I am working up my nerve to go. My AH entered rehab 10 days ago, and I recognize it would be good for me. I drove to a meeting and didn't get out of the car. Maybe soon! I'm afraid of going and doing nothing but crying. I know it is supposed to be ok to do that, but I haven't been able to work up the nerve yet. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Trying2Fly

I'm going to my first meeting tonight, too, and I know exactly how you're feeling. Maybe we can compare notes afterward. Sending all my good thoughts to you! HUGS.

intheknow

My AH (which today is an abbreviation for A**HOLE) entered rehab 9 days ago. I definitely know where you are at, but believe me it is so worth it to go in. And yes, you will cry. And they will cry too. And they understand.

Cowgirl1265

Mellane, I am so glad you went and that it was a good experience for you.

Keep going! It works!

squirt

yay Mellane!

PoetryandHums

A little bit of a side note, but my understanding is that this is an adrenaline response--the blood is moving to do other things, like rush oxygen to your brain for quick thinking. I once had an ER nurse tell me that concentrating on warming up your hands can actually be a really good tool for coping with anxiety, because of focusing on one thing, getting back in control of your body, slowing down, etc.

Anyway, Mellane, you're awesome! Good going.