If I Could Raise My Child Again
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
Posts: 3,167
If I Could Raise My Child Again
If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd finger-paint more, and point fingers less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more,
I'd teach less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.
I'd finger-paint more, and point fingers less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more,
I'd teach less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 1,307
My boys are 9 and 11.... and I rear more so towards this approach.
No-longer having addiction in our home makes it ALL that much easier to do so, as well. I managed to do it during my 'x's bad times - probably because when I'd be with them it was like escaping from all of the bad.
The three of us are going to a music festival this weekend! We are going to see Jason Mraz, the Black Eyed Peas, and the Dave Matthews Band (as well as other names I am not familiar)!
Anywho - while this is my rearing approach.... who is it really serving? Me or them? or maybe both? But I can tell you that I do get much - so much - out of it.
Now, in saying that, all you folks who have children...... you do/did the best that you could at that time..... like we all do. I feel bad for my parents when they get these little memos.... while they didn't do or even know to do those things...... I don't fault them for it. I know they loved me and still do - it's just a different approach.
What our children CHOOSE to do ... is for them to own. What we choose to do is for ourselves to own.
Here is a good lil' diddy with the BEP and Jack Johnson!
YouTube - Gone Going: Black Eyed Peas feat. Jack Johnson
No-longer having addiction in our home makes it ALL that much easier to do so, as well. I managed to do it during my 'x's bad times - probably because when I'd be with them it was like escaping from all of the bad.
The three of us are going to a music festival this weekend! We are going to see Jason Mraz, the Black Eyed Peas, and the Dave Matthews Band (as well as other names I am not familiar)!
Anywho - while this is my rearing approach.... who is it really serving? Me or them? or maybe both? But I can tell you that I do get much - so much - out of it.
Now, in saying that, all you folks who have children...... you do/did the best that you could at that time..... like we all do. I feel bad for my parents when they get these little memos.... while they didn't do or even know to do those things...... I don't fault them for it. I know they loved me and still do - it's just a different approach.
What our children CHOOSE to do ... is for them to own. What we choose to do is for ourselves to own.
Here is a good lil' diddy with the BEP and Jack Johnson!
YouTube - Gone Going: Black Eyed Peas feat. Jack Johnson
get it, give it, grow in it
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
Posts: 3,167
Grow and Love
I did what I was capable of when raising my child.
I did do too much correcting and not enough connecting with my two stepchildren.
I am capable of seeing my character defects and I am capable of change.
Luckily, now I have the ability to affirm others and I have gratitude that today I can be different.
No time for regrets just time to continue to grow and love.
I did do too much correcting and not enough connecting with my two stepchildren.
I am capable of seeing my character defects and I am capable of change.
Luckily, now I have the ability to affirm others and I have gratitude that today I can be different.
No time for regrets just time to continue to grow and love.
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