Language of Letting Go - May 22 - Times of Reprogramming
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Language of Letting Go - May 22 - Times of Reprogramming
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Times of Reprogramming
Do not ask for love unless you're ready to be healed enough to give and receive love.
Do not ask for joy unless you're ready to feel and release your pain, so you can feel joy.
Do not ask for success unless you're ready to conquer the behaviors that would sabotage success.
Wouldn't it be nice if we could imagine ourselves having or becoming - and then immediately receiving - what we wanted? We can have and be the good things we want. All good things are ours for the asking. But first, groundwork - preparation work - must be done.
A gardener would not plant seeds unless the ground was adequately prepared to nurture and nourish those seeds. The planting would be wasted effort. It would be wasted effort for us to get what we wanted before we were ready.
First, we need to become aware of our need or desire. This may not be easy! Many of us have become accustomed to shutting off the inner voice of our wants, needs, and desires. Sometimes, life has to work hard to get our attention.
Next we let go of the old programming: the behavior and beliefs that interfere with nurturing and nourishing the good. Many of us have strong sabotaging programs, learned from childhood, that need to be released. We may need to act as if for a while until the belief that we deserve the good becomes real.
We combine this process with much letting go, while we are being changed at the core.
There is naturalness to this process, but it can be intense. Things take time.
Good things are ours for the asking, if we are willing to participate in the work of groundbreaking. Work and wait.
Today, God, give me the courage to identify the good I want in my life and to ask for it. Give me also the faith and stamina I need to go through the work that must be accomplished first.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Times of Reprogramming
Do not ask for love unless you're ready to be healed enough to give and receive love.
Do not ask for joy unless you're ready to feel and release your pain, so you can feel joy.
Do not ask for success unless you're ready to conquer the behaviors that would sabotage success.
Wouldn't it be nice if we could imagine ourselves having or becoming - and then immediately receiving - what we wanted? We can have and be the good things we want. All good things are ours for the asking. But first, groundwork - preparation work - must be done.
A gardener would not plant seeds unless the ground was adequately prepared to nurture and nourish those seeds. The planting would be wasted effort. It would be wasted effort for us to get what we wanted before we were ready.
First, we need to become aware of our need or desire. This may not be easy! Many of us have become accustomed to shutting off the inner voice of our wants, needs, and desires. Sometimes, life has to work hard to get our attention.
Next we let go of the old programming: the behavior and beliefs that interfere with nurturing and nourishing the good. Many of us have strong sabotaging programs, learned from childhood, that need to be released. We may need to act as if for a while until the belief that we deserve the good becomes real.
We combine this process with much letting go, while we are being changed at the core.
There is naturalness to this process, but it can be intense. Things take time.
Good things are ours for the asking, if we are willing to participate in the work of groundbreaking. Work and wait.
Today, God, give me the courage to identify the good I want in my life and to ask for it. Give me also the faith and stamina I need to go through the work that must be accomplished first.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I have what I think is called the Cinderella Syndrome which means that I tend to feel that I am not worthy of success or a wonderful life, that it is all an illusion and that if people ever knew the real me, they would feel the same.
I have worked hard in my career to become good at what I do, experience is a better teacher than any courses I ever took. I have worked hard at my recovery to become a better person, not to impress others but to feel good about myself.
Yet I need to self-talk sometimes, to remind myself that I AM worthy, that I AM good enough...even more than good "enough".
It's okay to feel good about ourselves and our accomplishments. It's not an ego thing but instead an acceptance of new thoughts that we indeed deserve to be treated with love and respect in all aspects of our lives.
Just for today I will say "thank you" to a compliment, I will feel good about the person I am today and I will be grateful for the lessons of recovery that brought me this gift.
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I have worked hard in my career to become good at what I do, experience is a better teacher than any courses I ever took. I have worked hard at my recovery to become a better person, not to impress others but to feel good about myself.
Yet I need to self-talk sometimes, to remind myself that I AM worthy, that I AM good enough...even more than good "enough".
It's okay to feel good about ourselves and our accomplishments. It's not an ego thing but instead an acceptance of new thoughts that we indeed deserve to be treated with love and respect in all aspects of our lives.
Next we let go of the old programming: the behavior and beliefs that interfere with nurturing and nourishing the good. Many of us have strong sabotaging programs, learned from childhood, that need to be released. We may need to act as if for a while until the belief that we deserve the good becomes real.
Hugs
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