friday night craving
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friday night craving
its friday night and it is not like i am really craving a beer its that i just want to have one..... maybe i am just have nothing to do. I have already did bigest loser from h*** tape, made a salad, went to store, raked the lawn, did dishes, now what. Just trying to work though this i guess. I will win
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Make it a point to just not drink.. prove it to yourself. It's friday, you're bored.. seems appealing, but think of how cool it'll feel tomorrow when you've beat it one more day. The more days like that you add together, the less and less you'll think of drinking at all. I can't remember the last time I thought about drinking.. anymore all Fridays mean to me is '***** I get to sleep in a little, stay up a little late watching brainless TV, playing with my dogs, making yummy food.... on and on'. It takes about 3 weeks to develop a habit, I've heard.. maybe make a new habit for your evenings of just not drinking.. it might stick?
I don't mean for that to sound easy, because it's not.. but it is that simple. I hope you're also involved in some type of support, counseling, meetings, whatever to really boost your committment for this. See ya bright eyed and bushy tailed tomorrow morning!! You can do it.
I don't mean for that to sound easy, because it's not.. but it is that simple. I hope you're also involved in some type of support, counseling, meetings, whatever to really boost your committment for this. See ya bright eyed and bushy tailed tomorrow morning!! You can do it.
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Of course you want a beer, it's Friday night. But that doesn't mean you have to drink!
You don't have to answer this question, just something to think about. How many Friday nights in the past was drinking that first beer as normal as breathing? Anyone who drinks, even normal drinkers, weekends and drinking are like peanut butter and jelly. . . they go together. But for us alcoholics, so does drinking and family problems, shame, embarressment, DUI's, work problems, guilt, . . . .
I commend you for sharing that you want a beer. You have to talk about this stuff to work through it. I'm glad you're on here sharing this with us rather than seriously considering drinking.
Try to find some other "reward" for yourself for the weekends. How much money did you spend on drinking? I'm sure you could use that money to rent a movie and maybe get a pizza, or go out to a movie and grab a bite to eat. Now that the weather is getting warmer, throw some steaks on the grill. Find some kind of weekend reward to replace the weekend reward you had for however long.
It's a great feeling waking up in the morning with a clear head and not being sick from a night of drinking. You know you'll congratulate yourself in the morning and you should! And as others have said, stick around with us tonight, we're all obviously sitting at home as well! But we're clean and sober and damn proud of it!
Hugs,
Judy
You don't have to answer this question, just something to think about. How many Friday nights in the past was drinking that first beer as normal as breathing? Anyone who drinks, even normal drinkers, weekends and drinking are like peanut butter and jelly. . . they go together. But for us alcoholics, so does drinking and family problems, shame, embarressment, DUI's, work problems, guilt, . . . .
I commend you for sharing that you want a beer. You have to talk about this stuff to work through it. I'm glad you're on here sharing this with us rather than seriously considering drinking.
Try to find some other "reward" for yourself for the weekends. How much money did you spend on drinking? I'm sure you could use that money to rent a movie and maybe get a pizza, or go out to a movie and grab a bite to eat. Now that the weather is getting warmer, throw some steaks on the grill. Find some kind of weekend reward to replace the weekend reward you had for however long.
It's a great feeling waking up in the morning with a clear head and not being sick from a night of drinking. You know you'll congratulate yourself in the morning and you should! And as others have said, stick around with us tonight, we're all obviously sitting at home as well! But we're clean and sober and damn proud of it!
Hugs,
Judy
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Originally Posted by serenityqueen 
Of course you want a beer, it's Friday night. But that doesn't mean you have to drink!
You don't have to answer this question, just something to think about. How many Friday nights in the past was drinking that first beer as normal as breathing? Anyone who drinks, even normal drinkers, weekends and drinking are like peanut butter and jelly. . . they go together. But for us alcoholics, so does drinking and family problems, shame, embarressment, DUI's, work problems, guilt, . . . .
I commend you for sharing that you want a beer. You have to talk about this stuff to work through it. I'm glad you're on here sharing this with us rather than seriously considering drinking.
Try to find some other "reward" for yourself for the weekends. How much money did you spend on drinking? I'm sure you could use that money to rent a movie and maybe get a pizza, or go out to a movie and grab a bite to eat. Now that the weather is getting warmer, throw some steaks on the grill. Find some kind of weekend reward to replace the weekend reward you had for however long.
It's a great feeling waking up in the morning with a clear head and not being sick from a night of drinking. You know you'll congratulate yourself in the morning and you should! And as others have said, stick around with us tonight, we're all obviously sitting at home as well! But we're clean and sober and damn proud of it!
Hugs,
Judy
You don't have to answer this question, just something to think about. How many Friday nights in the past was drinking that first beer as normal as breathing? Anyone who drinks, even normal drinkers, weekends and drinking are like peanut butter and jelly. . . they go together. But for us alcoholics, so does drinking and family problems, shame, embarressment, DUI's, work problems, guilt, . . . .
I commend you for sharing that you want a beer. You have to talk about this stuff to work through it. I'm glad you're on here sharing this with us rather than seriously considering drinking.
Try to find some other "reward" for yourself for the weekends. How much money did you spend on drinking? I'm sure you could use that money to rent a movie and maybe get a pizza, or go out to a movie and grab a bite to eat. Now that the weather is getting warmer, throw some steaks on the grill. Find some kind of weekend reward to replace the weekend reward you had for however long.
It's a great feeling waking up in the morning with a clear head and not being sick from a night of drinking. You know you'll congratulate yourself in the morning and you should! And as others have said, stick around with us tonight, we're all obviously sitting at home as well! But we're clean and sober and damn proud of it!
Hugs,
Judy
6/20/08
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Serenity Queen always says just what I want to say in such a better way.
We did the beer every night, too. Every single night until we could stand no more.
I quit...he did too about 6 months later. Be the leader in your relationship....it gets better, it really does.
You can do this....stick close to SR. Best wishes to you. Glad you're here.
We did the beer every night, too. Every single night until we could stand no more.
I quit...he did too about 6 months later. Be the leader in your relationship....it gets better, it really does.
You can do this....stick close to SR. Best wishes to you. Glad you're here.
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Originally Posted by coffeenut
Serenity Queen always says just what I want to say in such a better way.
We did the beer every night, too. Every single night until we could stand no more.
I quit...he did too about 6 months later. Be the leader in your relationship....it gets better, it really does.
You can do this....stick close to SR. Best wishes to you. Glad you're here.
We did the beer every night, too. Every single night until we could stand no more.
I quit...he did too about 6 months later. Be the leader in your relationship....it gets better, it really does.
You can do this....stick close to SR. Best wishes to you. Glad you're here.
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Stay sober for YOU. He'll follow or not, that part isn't up to you....nor should it be.
And....stay sober for your kids. I so wish I would have got my act together when my kids were small. It is the ONLY regret I have in my life.
Alcohol is just insidious. It changes the entire dynamics of the family. You are in an excellent position to make such HUGE positive changes in your life. You can do this....for right now, just take care of YOU.
You can win, and come out stronger for it. Stick close to SR. Read Everything!
And....stay sober for your kids. I so wish I would have got my act together when my kids were small. It is the ONLY regret I have in my life.
Alcohol is just insidious. It changes the entire dynamics of the family. You are in an excellent position to make such HUGE positive changes in your life. You can do this....for right now, just take care of YOU.
You can win, and come out stronger for it. Stick close to SR. Read Everything!
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Friday nights are tough for me too. At the end of a stressful week, my thing was to drink and play online poker. Now I've given them both up and I'm feeling kind of lost on Friday nights. BUT I ALWAYS feel good about it on Saturday morning. HANG IN THERE!
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Hang in there, Friday nights are really tough for me aswell. Last nite was the toughest. I was all alone at home, nothing to do so the addictive voice in my head was going overboard, I really thought I was going to give in but I just took a nap, listened to some awesome metallica and before I knew it the morning was here and I feel great, except for the fact that Saturday cravings are starting to hit. Im just gonna read and post till they subside.
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Hi there,
I am reading an awesome AA book called Living Sober. There are some great suggestions in there for allieviating cravings. One that works for me is to eat something sweet. Imagine drinking a beer after you have snarfed down a cookie? Not an appetizing though! Surely there is some easter chocolate still lurking around?
I am reading an awesome AA book called Living Sober. There are some great suggestions in there for allieviating cravings. One that works for me is to eat something sweet. Imagine drinking a beer after you have snarfed down a cookie? Not an appetizing though! Surely there is some easter chocolate still lurking around?
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I used to LOVE sweets with beer. I know most people find that disgusting, but my favorite thing was to put Milky Way bars in the fridge and have a cold one with a cold one. LOL!
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Keep yourself busy with anything but drinking. Stick around here, that always helps me a lot. Many times when I have cravings I come here and welcome newcomers. My cravings go away, so I've helped someone else and myself also.
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