i could eat nails
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i could eat nails
All afternoon all I could think about was..... will i a have a drink when I get home... Will my hubby be drinking by the time i get home.
Then I would try to find reasons why I could have a drink. These thoughts went though my head most of the afternoon. When will some of these feeling go away?
Then I would try to find reasons why I could have a drink. These thoughts went though my head most of the afternoon. When will some of these feeling go away?
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aaah, that is the question huh!
Well, I can tell you that the obsession was lifted from me around the 30 day mark, but is different for everyone.
I had to get to work, go to meetings, connect with others in recovery, start working the steps and connect with who I wanted to be.
Once my spiritual life became more important than the wine, I found that my sober life is normal now.
Good luck and keep reaching out!
Well, I can tell you that the obsession was lifted from me around the 30 day mark, but is different for everyone.
I had to get to work, go to meetings, connect with others in recovery, start working the steps and connect with who I wanted to be.
Once my spiritual life became more important than the wine, I found that my sober life is normal now.
Good luck and keep reaching out!
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I wish I could give you an exact time frame when the obsession will be lifted and these thoughts won't override all other thoughts you have throughout the afternoon. But like TTOSBT said, everyone's different.
I'm sure you already know that Recovery isn't just not drinking (or using) it's changing your entire way of life. Are you following the same routine after work that you always did? Is there a way you could find a Meeting to go to on your way home or something else to break the same pattern you have been going through? Is there a friend who doesn't drink who you could stop by and have a cup of coffee or a soda with first? Do you by any chance have an old gym membership you could reactivate? If not, just about all gyms offer a free, 30 day trial membership. You can either fill out one of those little slips to "win" a membership or just call and tell them you are trying to find the right gym to join. A good workout is a great stress reliever and also, a great way to get in shape! What better reward for being clean and sober than a new, trim figure? Then you can reward yourself with some new outfits with the money you are not spending on alcohol.
It is so important to build up a support system, this isn't something you can do alone. You are already using SR, which is great, but do you have any face to face support?
Try not to focus on what's going to happen when you get home. Just think about making it through each hour, don't overwhelm yourself with the entire evening. And remember, this too shall pass. Those using feelings don't last forever and they will begin to subside. Look forward to some other things to do in the evenings, set one night aside to take one of those hour long baths where you deep condition your hair, give yourself a facial and yes, shave those winter legs! lol It is important to reward yourself for not drinking.
Hang in there, it's so worth it,
Judy
I'm sure you already know that Recovery isn't just not drinking (or using) it's changing your entire way of life. Are you following the same routine after work that you always did? Is there a way you could find a Meeting to go to on your way home or something else to break the same pattern you have been going through? Is there a friend who doesn't drink who you could stop by and have a cup of coffee or a soda with first? Do you by any chance have an old gym membership you could reactivate? If not, just about all gyms offer a free, 30 day trial membership. You can either fill out one of those little slips to "win" a membership or just call and tell them you are trying to find the right gym to join. A good workout is a great stress reliever and also, a great way to get in shape! What better reward for being clean and sober than a new, trim figure? Then you can reward yourself with some new outfits with the money you are not spending on alcohol.
It is so important to build up a support system, this isn't something you can do alone. You are already using SR, which is great, but do you have any face to face support?
Try not to focus on what's going to happen when you get home. Just think about making it through each hour, don't overwhelm yourself with the entire evening. And remember, this too shall pass. Those using feelings don't last forever and they will begin to subside. Look forward to some other things to do in the evenings, set one night aside to take one of those hour long baths where you deep condition your hair, give yourself a facial and yes, shave those winter legs! lol It is important to reward yourself for not drinking.
Hang in there, it's so worth it,
Judy
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I don't think you will know until you stop for a while - it is so individual..But come to SR every day - every minute and you will get support - and for most of us you end up thinking about other things because just being sober is a really huge good thing.. worth checking out.
thanks for your post.. big hug
thanks for your post.. big hug
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What day are you on? I'm on day 39 and I'm still struggling hard BUT I've gotten some "breaths of fresh air," when I wake up in the morning WITHOUT the hangover, without the regrets, and without the wasted time of having to spend half a weekend day in bed due to being up til all hours etc. etc., and I think, DAMN! It feels good to be a GANGSTA!.......of SOBRIETY!!!!
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The worst thing about those thoughts is the snowballing of them. ONce they slip in theyare hard to stop. Best thing you can do is recognise that theyare just thoughts and that you can let them take you over or you can take a deep breath, encourage them to pass, and move onto another thought or activity. Does your hubby know you are trying not to drink? Is it possible for him to stop too?
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Originally Posted by cab31 
The worst thing about those thoughts is the snowballing of them. ONce they slip in theyare hard to stop. Best thing you can do is recognise that theyare just thoughts and that you can let them take you over or you can take a deep breath, encourage them to pass, and move onto another thought or activity. Does your hubby know you are trying not to drink? Is it possible for him to stop too?
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