St. Patrick's Day
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: USA
Posts: 15,540
why do you have to go? most of us have to miss functions sometimes, and it seems like a family member would understand if you bowed out this one time..
but astro's right - take your own non alc drink, offer to help with dishes and serving etc to stay busy. have a good exit plan if it gets tough.
good luck! k
but astro's right - take your own non alc drink, offer to help with dishes and serving etc to stay busy. have a good exit plan if it gets tough.
good luck! k
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
First, have a back up plan. Have an
outlet and a quick get away.
If im invited and feel uneasy about
going, i can have an easy excuse
to not be able to go.
I would tell them that something
has come up unexpectantly and
that i appreciate the invite. If
i can break away from my other
obigation then ill get back with u.
If u dont hear back from me then
i wasnt able to get away.
Dont lie about anything then u wont
have to come back to make amends.
The other thing is a meeting...they
dont have to know that but it is the
other obligation u r possibly commiting to.
My recovery is more important to me than
feeling anxious are squirrely at a family
function where alcohol is present family
members are under the influence and
on a different plain than I.
outlet and a quick get away.
If im invited and feel uneasy about
going, i can have an easy excuse
to not be able to go.
I would tell them that something
has come up unexpectantly and
that i appreciate the invite. If
i can break away from my other
obigation then ill get back with u.
If u dont hear back from me then
i wasnt able to get away.
Dont lie about anything then u wont
have to come back to make amends.
The other thing is a meeting...they
dont have to know that but it is the
other obligation u r possibly commiting to.
My recovery is more important to me than
feeling anxious are squirrely at a family
function where alcohol is present family
members are under the influence and
on a different plain than I.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Baghdad
Posts: 2,822
Originally Posted by Majamama 
St. Patrick's Day.
How the hell do you get through it? Invited to my cousin's house for dinner. MUST GO. How do I visit him without having a beer?
How the hell do you get through it? Invited to my cousin's house for dinner. MUST GO. How do I visit him without having a beer?
Member
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 1,055
Sweetie you don't HAVE to do ANYTHING you don't want to do! Take some soda or juice if you prefer. If you get offered a drink "No Thanks!" There's no need for an explanation. And if you feel that you won't be able to stay away from the alcohol, stay home =)
Good Luck
Good Luck
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,445
I agree with everyone else here, mamabin.
You're an adult - no-one can force you to do anything you don't want to do.
If it's a boozy green beer drinking peer pressure part-ay kinda deal like they tend to be here, I'd think it over very carefully.
I stayed away from all that in early sobriety - IMO, I have no business being anywhere where the main focus is on drinking.
If it's more sedate than that and you really wanna go - there are some excellent suggestions here - warn people beforehand that you're not drinking, BYO soft drinks, and have an escape plan
D
You're an adult - no-one can force you to do anything you don't want to do.
If it's a boozy green beer drinking peer pressure part-ay kinda deal like they tend to be here, I'd think it over very carefully.
I stayed away from all that in early sobriety - IMO, I have no business being anywhere where the main focus is on drinking.
If it's more sedate than that and you really wanna go - there are some excellent suggestions here - warn people beforehand that you're not drinking, BYO soft drinks, and have an escape plan
D
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