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Sorry I've been making alot of threads. I'm just trying to clear my head and try to sort my life out.
I realize now that I drank in every mood I was in during the last decade+.. When things were good I would drink to have fun. When things were bad I would drink my sorrow away.
But right now thanks to this site and you people on here... I'm currently going through the worst time in my life and I'm NOT going to turn to beer. I am going to stay strong with the support of friends and family..
I realize now that I drank in every mood I was in during the last decade+.. When things were good I would drink to have fun. When things were bad I would drink my sorrow away.
But right now thanks to this site and you people on here... I'm currently going through the worst time in my life and I'm NOT going to turn to beer. I am going to stay strong with the support of friends and family..
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Join Date: May 2008
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Good plan Steve. You need to have a clear head to look at things objectively and figure out where to go from here. Alcohol only exacerbates already bad situations.
I'm sorry for your fiance, her Dad and yourself. You are all hurting right now for different reasons. You need a plan to execute my friend and one you will commit to for the long haul. Things will get better overall, but ya gotta loose the booze for good, NOW.
Best of everything.
I'm sorry for your fiance, her Dad and yourself. You are all hurting right now for different reasons. You need a plan to execute my friend and one you will commit to for the long haul. Things will get better overall, but ya gotta loose the booze for good, NOW.
Best of everything.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
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Gerry is right that you need to develop a plan.
I might have posted this to you already but I will repeat it anyways as I think it is relevant.
I wrote my wife a letter after she rightfully gave me an ultimatum.
In the letter I confessed to my problem and as a solution I promised to never drink again. Of course she doesn't trust me as I have proved untrustworthy in the past and if I am being honest the other times I had no intention of quitting but would control it until the heat was off.
I think you know exactly what I am talking about.
I don't know if this will help you or not but it may be a good idea to write her and maybe even her father a similar letter.
For me to have it in writing makes it more real.
I read that letter every Sunday and recommit to what I have to do.
So far so good but I know I need to read it every week to stay focused.
Just like you my woman is worth it and I am worth it for my own self too.
I might have posted this to you already but I will repeat it anyways as I think it is relevant.
I wrote my wife a letter after she rightfully gave me an ultimatum.
In the letter I confessed to my problem and as a solution I promised to never drink again. Of course she doesn't trust me as I have proved untrustworthy in the past and if I am being honest the other times I had no intention of quitting but would control it until the heat was off.
I think you know exactly what I am talking about.
I don't know if this will help you or not but it may be a good idea to write her and maybe even her father a similar letter.
For me to have it in writing makes it more real.
I read that letter every Sunday and recommit to what I have to do.
So far so good but I know I need to read it every week to stay focused.
Just like you my woman is worth it and I am worth it for my own self too.
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Location: NY
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I too am glad you are remaining sober. It would and could get so much worse if you pick up. The hardest part of sobriety is facing life and you have already begun that. Congratulations on that achievement and many more!!
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