My Rights as a Person
Nature Girl
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My Rights as a Person
I was reading some codpendency articles on the web and came across this and thought I'd share it.
As a Person I have the Right to:
Be myself.
Refuse requests without feeling guilty.
Be competent and be proud of my accomplishments.
Feel and express anger.
Ask for affection and help (may be turned down, but can ask.)
Be treated as a capable adult.
Be illogical in making decisions.
Make mistakes - and be responsible for them.
Change my mind.
Say, "I don't know."
Say, "I don't agree."
Say, "I don't care."
Offer no reasons or excuses for justifying my behavior.
Have my opinions be given respect.
Have my needs be as important as the needs of others.
Tell someone what my needs are (they may not care to do anything about it.)
Evaluate my own behavior, thoughts, and emotions and be responsible for their initiation and the consequences upon myself.
Take pride in my body and define attractiveness in my own terms.
Grow, learn, change - value my age and experience.
And sometimes to make demands on others.
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As a Person I have the Right to:
Be myself.
Refuse requests without feeling guilty.
Be competent and be proud of my accomplishments.
Feel and express anger.
Ask for affection and help (may be turned down, but can ask.)
Be treated as a capable adult.
Be illogical in making decisions.
Make mistakes - and be responsible for them.
Change my mind.
Say, "I don't know."
Say, "I don't agree."
Say, "I don't care."
Offer no reasons or excuses for justifying my behavior.
Have my opinions be given respect.
Have my needs be as important as the needs of others.
Tell someone what my needs are (they may not care to do anything about it.)
Evaluate my own behavior, thoughts, and emotions and be responsible for their initiation and the consequences upon myself.
Take pride in my body and define attractiveness in my own terms.
Grow, learn, change - value my age and experience.
And sometimes to make demands on others.
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ugh! Is there something wrong with me that when I read this post, I immediately felt guilty for reading in this list things that I did not give to my ex as his right?? *sigh* Man, this is gonna be a LONG journey for me ... 
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I totally agree with all that and do live by most of it.....except when it comes to my son...I wonder why?? I am making good steps ahead with him but have some work to do. Thanks for sharing that Ann~ Bonnie
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Evaluate my own behavior, thoughts, and emotions and be responsible for their initiation and the consequences upon myself.
Recovery taught me to own my behaviour, fess up to my mistakes and keep my side of the street clean. More than that was out of my control.
Reading this list tonight filled me with gratitude because when I began this journey I had not claimed a single one of them as my right and I am so grateful for the gift of recovery and for getting to know that stranger called me.
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