kingston

Had one of my best days yesterday in weeks. Then I received an email from my ExAH, first "friendly/his normal" communications to me in weeks. He'll sign the separation agreement because it's in my best interests (he has creditors looking for him and he's concerned for me). BS, none of his debt has my name on it.

I was upset when I read it, as I saw manipulation in the lines. I walked away from it, went for a walk in the moonlight and spoke/vented to one of my girlfriends.

I'll resend the papers with no comments and get on with my life. One day at a time. I'm pleased with myself that I didn't call/email him.

Lilyflower

Way to go Kingston!



Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Silverberry1331

Very positive ways of handling a difficult situation, and kudos to looking at that as only a portion of your day by noting how great the rest of the day was. Shows that you are not allowing his behavior to dictate the weather of the entire day...mostly sunny all day, with a quick shower in the afternoon...clear skies for the rest of the evening...

kingston

Thanks all, it's getting better and I will focus on all the positive changes. I'll run off copies of the agreement later this week and drop them off at my girlfriends place - she lives in the same building. That way I don't have to see/talk to him, not ready for that.

In my past when he used behavior like this I would jump right in and try to help/take over/control. Not anymore, he has consequences that he owns and it's not mine.

Have a great day all - K.

denny57

Fantastic!

Barbara52

You are doing wonderful!

lizw

Sounds like you're doing great!
Isn't it a relief to see the manipulation for what it is though?
Instead of being sucked in? Only to be disappointed again.....
I don't miss that cycle either.
:ghug3