frustrated1

I have been gone for some time but continue to read and learn from others. Since the last time I was here my 22 year old AD had 1 year and then relapsed. After a short time out using she herself decided she needed to go back into a 30 inpatient rehab. This was the 1st time she did it all on her own, from making calls to going to detox and then being accepted in. Unfortunately while in she "fell in Love" with a nother client. As soon as they got out they started dating. After about 2 1/2 months he dumped her. Not sure why but of course she was having a hard time accepting this. While dating they both relapsed. She even went so far as to get a DUI. She is living at home and had a job. Everything started going down hill, boyfriend dumped her, she was suspended from work for being late consistantly, and they discharged her from her IOP for her multiple relapses. They were considering her for a more intense IOP or a longer term program. Here is the problem. We live in IL and I just tracked her phone and she is now in FL. She
is on probation from past issues and we are not sure if we should let her PO know or just sit back and let her live her life and deal with the outcome as it happens. I think I may have just answered my own question. Anyway, does
anyone have thoughts that could possibly help us?

Rella927

Frustrated So sorry that you are going through this and yes I do belive that you answered your own question

Amazing how we can do that sometimes!

Let go as painful as this can be..it is all that we can do-no matter what we say or do they are not going to change until they are ready. Calling the PO is getting involved-which is not something IMO that I would want to do. However if the PO comes to you that is a different story.

Try to detach with love and prayers out to her-

Do something for yourself-take a nice bath with bubbles or go for a nice walk

Barbara52

I think you did too. {hugs}

As hard as it is to do, you seem to know that letting go is the best thing for you and her.