lostinloventx

i want to leave my lover.but i am so torn up about it but not as much as watching her tear my heart and family apart please help this hurts so bad

peaceteach

You've found a great resource coming here, lostinloventx. There is a saying that goes around. When YOU have reached your bottom in the addiction/loved ones of addicts, then you know it's time to make a change. Another saying is when the pain of staying becomes greater than the pain of leaving, you know the right decision to make.

I hope you read up above on the stickies and also these many threads of folks who have experienced or are currently experiencing the pain you speak of. Welcome.

ToughChoices

I'm so sorry that you are hurting.

Leaving is a difficult choice. So is staying.

There are many helpful voices here and lots of good support from people who have been / are in your position. Keep coming back, posting, and reading.

Wishing you peace today,
-TC