Hi Everyone
Don't stop.
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 3
Hi Everyone
Hi! Here's my short little story...
I have been the codependent, ((the "moral compass", the "chastising" friend)) for two of my best friends for the past....God only knows how long. They are both strung out on drugs (a combination of prescription and anything else), in addition to alcohol. I realized something was wrong when my life was falling apart due to their addiction, but their lives are, "perfectly fine".
Last weekend I found this site, after three hours of searching. I refused to give-up, knowing someone else has got to be out there dealing with this as well. I have been sneaking around this site for a while - but now it's time to write something.
So, hi! I don't know much else I can do with this friendship..I don't know if it's better for me to leave them or stay.
Luvs
I have been the codependent, ((the "moral compass", the "chastising" friend)) for two of my best friends for the past....God only knows how long. They are both strung out on drugs (a combination of prescription and anything else), in addition to alcohol. I realized something was wrong when my life was falling apart due to their addiction, but their lives are, "perfectly fine".
Last weekend I found this site, after three hours of searching. I refused to give-up, knowing someone else has got to be out there dealing with this as well. I have been sneaking around this site for a while - but now it's time to write something.
So, hi! I don't know much else I can do with this friendship..I don't know if it's better for me to leave them or stay.
Luvs
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family!
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Hi Autumn, and welcome to SR.
I'm an alcoholic, but in the last 6 months I've started to scratch the surface on understanding my codependancy with the help of CoDA meetings. Ever tried attending any? Here's the CoDA homepage to get you started if you're interested
http://www.codependents.org/
Glad you're here, you're not alone.
I'm an alcoholic, but in the last 6 months I've started to scratch the surface on understanding my codependancy with the help of CoDA meetings. Ever tried attending any? Here's the CoDA homepage to get you started if you're interested
http://www.codependents.org/
Glad you're here, you're not alone.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: on the moon
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Hi Autumn!
If I understand correctly you're not an alcoholic and/or addict. But you do seem like a very caring person for your friends - that is nice.
In my modest oppinion and humble understanding of the condition I believe their's nothing anybody can do to help somebody else unless they actually want helping.
I'm an alcoholic. Many times my mom and dad and my grandparents and friends and probably everybody I know, at one time or another, have tried to do something about my drinking, but their was never anything they could do because i wanted to live like that.
Sorry, but that's the way I see it. I hope for you and your friends that you will be able to help them.
If I understand correctly you're not an alcoholic and/or addict. But you do seem like a very caring person for your friends - that is nice.
In my modest oppinion and humble understanding of the condition I believe their's nothing anybody can do to help somebody else unless they actually want helping.
I'm an alcoholic. Many times my mom and dad and my grandparents and friends and probably everybody I know, at one time or another, have tried to do something about my drinking, but their was never anything they could do because i wanted to live like that.
Sorry, but that's the way I see it. I hope for you and your friends that you will be able to help them.
you will find a lot of good advice and support here.
Don't stop.
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 3
Thanks!
Originally Posted by aldo1980 
Hi Autumn!
If I understand correctly you're not an alcoholic and/or addict. But you do seem like a very caring person for your friends - that is nice.
If I understand correctly you're not an alcoholic and/or addict. But you do seem like a very caring person for your friends - that is nice.
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