Escape the Trap of Hurt Feelings
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Escape the Trap of Hurt Feelings
Escape the Trap of Hurt Feelings
© 2006 by Doug Britton (Permission granted to print for personal use )
...For when I am weak, then I am strong (2 Corinthians 12:10).
[Love} ... keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).
Taking things personally often leads to anger or depression.
One of the major causes for anger or depression in many people is taking things personally, allowing their feelings to be hurt by others’ word and actions.
The following ideas can help you not take things personally---even if the other person means for you to take them personally!
Steps to avoid hurt feelings or taking things personally
If someone says or does something that hurts your feelings:
Consider asking if there is a problem between you and him or her.
Concentrate on loving the other person. This focus helps you get away from being self-centered or self-conscious.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect time pressure in his or her life.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect tiredness or exhaustion.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect concentration on issues or plans.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect personality problems. You can lovingly say to yourself, "That’s his (or her) problem."
Realize that you may not see things clearly or may misinterpret something.
Realize that you may have set yourself up to be hurt.
Realize that you may be too sensitive, or that your expectations may be unreasonable.
Realize that there are cliques or in-groups that will not accept you because of your social status, clothes, finances or other superficial reasons. This is a sign of their immaturity. Do not take it personally.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect difficulties or tragedies he or she is facing.
Realize that you may have done or said something to cause the person to react the way he or she did.
Realize that you cannot read other peoples’ minds.
Realize that the nature of relationships may change over time. Interests and needs change, and sometimes relationships change accordingly.
Realize that some people won't like you, or that there may be personality conflicts. Still be polite and still love them, but do not feel an obligation to win them over.
Realize that everybody is imperfect. If someone is inconsiderate, rude, or insensitive, you can lovingly say to yourself, "That’s his (or her) problem." There is no need to take it personally, even if it is meant to be taken personally..
© 2006 by Doug Britton (Permission granted to print for personal use )
...For when I am weak, then I am strong (2 Corinthians 12:10).
[Love} ... keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).
Taking things personally often leads to anger or depression.
One of the major causes for anger or depression in many people is taking things personally, allowing their feelings to be hurt by others’ word and actions.
The following ideas can help you not take things personally---even if the other person means for you to take them personally!
Steps to avoid hurt feelings or taking things personally
If someone says or does something that hurts your feelings:
Consider asking if there is a problem between you and him or her.
Concentrate on loving the other person. This focus helps you get away from being self-centered or self-conscious.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect time pressure in his or her life.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect tiredness or exhaustion.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect concentration on issues or plans.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect personality problems. You can lovingly say to yourself, "That’s his (or her) problem."
Realize that you may not see things clearly or may misinterpret something.
Realize that you may have set yourself up to be hurt.
Realize that you may be too sensitive, or that your expectations may be unreasonable.
Realize that there are cliques or in-groups that will not accept you because of your social status, clothes, finances or other superficial reasons. This is a sign of their immaturity. Do not take it personally.
Realize the other person’s reaction may reflect difficulties or tragedies he or she is facing.
Realize that you may have done or said something to cause the person to react the way he or she did.
Realize that you cannot read other peoples’ minds.
Realize that the nature of relationships may change over time. Interests and needs change, and sometimes relationships change accordingly.
Realize that some people won't like you, or that there may be personality conflicts. Still be polite and still love them, but do not feel an obligation to win them over.
Realize that everybody is imperfect. If someone is inconsiderate, rude, or insensitive, you can lovingly say to yourself, "That’s his (or her) problem." There is no need to take it personally, even if it is meant to be taken personally..
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