Two weeks in
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Join Date: Aug 2005
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Two weeks in
Fourteen days sober here. The lovely missus is not throwing any victory parties yet, but I understand that my key will still work if I ever get home from working out of town. That's pretty darned good.
I backed off a little on the phone calls a few days ago. I felt (and she confirmed) that I was asking for too much acceptance from her so soon after my DUI stop. So now I face another day and remind myself that my goal is to be happy in the real world, not isolated from it.
It is a little easier on my nerves now that I am not pushing myself to somehow tweak my wife's feelings, but it is a little scary too. Will she forget our conversation and begin to think that I am drifting away from her? I'd like to discuss it, but I know that it would lead to less constructive talks.
I'll just keep checking in once a day to let her know that I am alive, working and sober, I guess.
I backed off a little on the phone calls a few days ago. I felt (and she confirmed) that I was asking for too much acceptance from her so soon after my DUI stop. So now I face another day and remind myself that my goal is to be happy in the real world, not isolated from it.
It is a little easier on my nerves now that I am not pushing myself to somehow tweak my wife's feelings, but it is a little scary too. Will she forget our conversation and begin to think that I am drifting away from her? I'd like to discuss it, but I know that it would lead to less constructive talks.
I'll just keep checking in once a day to let her know that I am alive, working and sober, I guess.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: MA.
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Hello Undrunken,
Congrats on your two weeks of sobriety...Continue to head down that path, make it a priority in your life. By doing this, you will be capable of handling problems that you are faced with.
Keep posting, we are glad you are here...
Congrats on your two weeks of sobriety...Continue to head down that path, make it a priority in your life. By doing this, you will be capable of handling problems that you are faced with.
Keep posting, we are glad you are here...
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
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Hi undrunken,
Congratulations on two great weeks!
I totally understand your feelings about your wife and marriage. It's the hardest lesson, early in sobriety, to learn patience. But, it's really all you can do. Stay sober, keep moving forward and have faith. Your wife will see your actions.
Congratulations on two great weeks!
I totally understand your feelings about your wife and marriage. It's the hardest lesson, early in sobriety, to learn patience. But, it's really all you can do. Stay sober, keep moving forward and have faith. Your wife will see your actions.
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 2,155
Congrats on your two weeks, thats great.
I hope you are getting support from a group or
counseling, only because long term sobriety usualy
depends on it and you do sound determined...
I wish you success, one day at a time, hope3
I hope you are getting support from a group or
counseling, only because long term sobriety usualy
depends on it and you do sound determined...
I wish you success, one day at a time, hope3
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Murrieta, Ca
Posts: 2,683
Awesome news on the 2 weeks.
Time is all you need. If you continue to stay sober, your actions alone will speak from themselves.
Good goal ! 
Time is all you need. If you continue to stay sober, your actions alone will speak from themselves.
my goal is to be happy in the real world, not isolated from it
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: CA
Posts: 115
we must have the same sober day! I am 15 days today, and am having the same prob with my husband hes says he doesn't love me anymore has looked for apartments etc and I just want things back to normal now that my head has cleared, he says he may never love me again, but all we can do is show by our actions we are serious this time and things will be different!!!!!!!!! Congrats, Lets keep moving forward and be patient(oh I hate that word)
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