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Head is still pounding and can't sleep it off, had a glass of fanta apparently that helps headaches.
Mind is SPINNING with thoughts today about God and time etc etc siiiiiigh help is on the way soon, im still hanging in there.
Mind is SPINNING with thoughts today about God and time etc etc siiiiiigh help is on the way soon, im still hanging in there.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice 
I have this one friend who does charity work
I am on benefits/welfare so I don't have much money to start with
Should I ditch this a&&hole?
You are on Welfare... right?
This "so called" friend is asking YOU to send money to charity when you are on Welfare?
Chilled .. Next time he calls. Say "I absolutely do not have any money to give". If he asks again .. Say the same.... Just repeat the same words over and over.
Don't get upset or worked up... Just smile as you are talking into the phone... This is not personal...The "friend is wrong to bother you" .... .. Have Some fun with it...
Just say same thing .. Like a broken record.
"I absolutely do not have any money to give"
"I absolutely do not have any money to give"
If he yells.. Who cares! (He's no friend.... Trust me...
Friends don't do this sort of thing).
Then end the call with these words.
"Please DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN asking for money ".
This may have been a "friend" .. at one time. But times change and people's financial situations change (as is obvious in your case).
The fact that he has no regard for you or your needs ... Is pathetic.
ICE...He is not a friend ...
BTW, Anna is right.... This is part of the recovery process.
YES.. Ditch 'em
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Originally Posted by MidnightRider
So let me understand...
You are on Welfare... right?
This "so called" friend is asking YOU to send money to charity when you are on Welfare?
Chilled .. Next time he calls. Say "I absolutely do not have any money to give". If he asks again .. Say the same.... Just repeat the same words over and over.
Don't get upset... Have fun. Just say same thing .. Like a broken record. If he yells.. Who cares! (He's no friend.... Trust me... Friends don't do this sort of thing).
Then end the call with these words.
"Please DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN asking for money ".
This may have been a "friend" .. at one time. But times change and people's financial situations change (as is obvious in your case).
The fact that he has no regard for you or your needs ... Is pathetic.
ICE...He is not a friend ...
BTW, Anna is right.... This is part of the recovery process.
YES.. Ditch 'em
You are on Welfare... right?
This "so called" friend is asking YOU to send money to charity when you are on Welfare?
Chilled .. Next time he calls. Say "I absolutely do not have any money to give". If he asks again .. Say the same.... Just repeat the same words over and over.
Don't get upset... Have fun. Just say same thing .. Like a broken record. If he yells.. Who cares! (He's no friend.... Trust me... Friends don't do this sort of thing).
Then end the call with these words.
"Please DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN asking for money ".
This may have been a "friend" .. at one time. But times change and people's financial situations change (as is obvious in your case).
The fact that he has no regard for you or your needs ... Is pathetic.
ICE...He is not a friend ...
BTW, Anna is right.... This is part of the recovery process.
YES.. Ditch 'em
He knows FULL WELL my mental state of mind and that I can't take stress and not one damn was given.
I have to take care of myself and walk away.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice
Yep on welfare, I made the mistake of donating bits of cash when I could but then he got demanding and manipulating etc
He knows FULL WELL my mental state of mind and that I can't take stress and not one damn was given.
I have to take care of myself and walk away.
He knows FULL WELL my mental state of mind and that I can't take stress and not one damn was given.
I have to take care of myself and walk away.
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Late to the thread. Agree with others to maybe take one more call and assertively tell him you are not financially able to support this guy right now. Tell him if he brings it up one more time you will no longer take his calls, emails etc. Give him the consequences of his actions, that way if he does it again, it's not like he didn't know better.
I "blocked" a lot of people when I became sober who did not support me and stressed me out. We are too fragile in early sobriety for added and unnecessary stress. I look at my sobriety like a newborn baby that I am FIERCELY protective of.
Good luck. Let us know what happens.
I "blocked" a lot of people when I became sober who did not support me and stressed me out. We are too fragile in early sobriety for added and unnecessary stress. I look at my sobriety like a newborn baby that I am FIERCELY protective of.
Good luck. Let us know what happens.
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