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12-15-2012, 07:47 PM

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kiwi1971

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Taking Ownership

Hi, I am new to the site after my girlfriend suggested it for support. Yesterday I admitted to her that I have a problem with alcohol following a work function where I flirted with another girl via text. Most aspects of my life are very good however when I drink I can lose control and become a different person that is prone to hurting people. In fact it has ruined all of my previous relationships and I don't want it to ruin this one.

When I'm sober I am kind, loving and genuine but if I drink something changes inside me and I turn into an idiot. I am trying to understand it but need to stop drinking so to end the destructive behaviour

12-15-2012, 07:53 PM

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Dee74

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I think many of us can identify with that Jekyll and Hyde thing Kiwi.

This is a great place to be - you'll find a lot of support here

12-15-2012, 08:06 PM

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Impurrfect

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((kiwi)) - Welcome to SR!

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

12-15-2012, 08:09 PM

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Happier

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Glad you are here. Drinking can do that to a lot of us. Good news is that we don't have to drink and we can actual be that person we like. Maybe even better !
Keep reading and posting.

12-15-2012, 08:27 PM

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Delilah1

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Welcome to SR!

12-16-2012, 01:00 AM

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kiwi1971

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thank you to everyone for your kind words and support. I appreciate it

12-16-2012, 01:15 AM

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Jeni26

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Welcome to SR. Yep, we've all done things we regret when we've been drinking. There is another way, a better way to live which doesn't involve shame or regret.
Pleased you're here x

12-18-2012, 12:31 PM

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Rosiepetal

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Welcome to SR Kiwi.
Have you thought about going to meetings? What action are you going to take to stop drinking?
Your story sounds like my ex alcoholic boyfriend only he hasn't sought help.
SR is a great place to start.
Hope it works out for you & your new relationship.

12-18-2012, 11:52 PM

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kiwi1971

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Originally Posted by Rosiepetal

Thanks Rosiepetal. I did consider AA however my partner warned me about 13th steppers, which I had no idea about. My plan is to manage it on my own with the support of my partner and the SR community. If I begin to struggle then I may seek out a counsellor for advice on other programs.