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Hi Bauerlexi,
I'm sorry for the losses you have suffered. Have you attended any grief groups, or counseling to help you through this difficult time?
I'm glad you have a group of close friends, even though they don't understand what you have been through they are there for you, and that is important.
Is there anything you are passionate about, or really love to do? Maybe you can try throwing yourself into something like that. I am not artistic, but sometimes drawing, or journaling will help me get my feelings out. It is okay to cry, and be sad, I just hope you are also finding some time to be happy and smile.
I'm sorry for the losses you have suffered. Have you attended any grief groups, or counseling to help you through this difficult time?
I'm glad you have a group of close friends, even though they don't understand what you have been through they are there for you, and that is important.
Is there anything you are passionate about, or really love to do? Maybe you can try throwing yourself into something like that. I am not artistic, but sometimes drawing, or journaling will help me get my feelings out. It is okay to cry, and be sad, I just hope you are also finding some time to be happy and smile.
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Originally Posted by Delilah1 
Hi Bauerlexi,
I'm sorry for the losses you have suffered. Have you attended any grief groups, or counseling to help you through this difficult time?
Is there anything you are passionate about, or really love to do? Maybe you can try throwing yourself into something like that. I am not artistic, but sometimes drawing, or journaling will help me get my feelings out. It is okay to cry, and be sad, I just hope you are also finding some time to be happy and smile.
I'm sorry for the losses you have suffered. Have you attended any grief groups, or counseling to help you through this difficult time?
Is there anything you are passionate about, or really love to do? Maybe you can try throwing yourself into something like that. I am not artistic, but sometimes drawing, or journaling will help me get my feelings out. It is okay to cry, and be sad, I just hope you are also finding some time to be happy and smile.
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Originally Posted by schnappi99
Sometimes the meetings are lightweight discussion but sometimes some pretty serious stuff is shared and you never know. Recently a guy and his friend showed up, the friend's son had recently died from an overdose and the friend had himself just relapsed after several years clean and was contemplating suicide. As the story came out I watched the shock hit everybody in the meeting, I had no experience along those lines but half the women in the meeting did. They all got their balance back and told their stories about relapse, death and near suicide, and their recovery in much greater detail than I had heard before. I put my phone # down on the list we gave the guy, but I think whatever help we gave came from the women. He left in better spirits, I hope to see him again. It was amazing and inspiring to see those women in action.
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Originally Posted by Maudcat
You are sad and hurting. Just breathe, put one foot in front of the other. It will be better in time. Sorry for your pain and loss. Addiction is heartbreaking.
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Originally Posted by Mklove
This is great advice and heartfelt reminder that people do care. Keep posting, it's with connections to people that you will remember life's beauties, but it takes time. And tears. So sorry you have had these losses.
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Hi bauerlexi! I hope you are doing OK this day ... I know that 'well' is not something we do in early grief. Mostly when people ask how I am, I answer "I'm OK". That basically means, I'm functioning. I'm paying bills, I'm feeding myself, I'm doing laundry, I'm getting to work...
Through all of that, small moments of light do break through now and then. I'm wishing you peace--because peace is what we all seek
Through all of that, small moments of light do break through now and then. I'm wishing you peace--because peace is what we all seek
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Thank you Heven. & thank you Seren for checking up on me. I've also been okay, I'm getting through every day. Some days I try not to think about it & pretend it didn't happen, and then other days I can't stop the tears.
I'm trying to focus on living in the present. My ex was originally the guy I wanted to marry...but I've realized that will never happen. I just miss him so much.
I hope you're doing okay, Seren.
I'm trying to focus on living in the present. My ex was originally the guy I wanted to marry...but I've realized that will never happen. I just miss him so much.
I hope you're doing okay, Seren.
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Thanks to all of you! It's amazing that I can come online and have people ready to listen. His one year anniversary since he passed is coming on February 19th (wow, feels like just a few months), and I'm trying to think of something to do to honor him. I'm considering lighting floating lanterns on the beach and letting them go, but I'm not sure. Nothing seems good enough to honor him, I would have given him the world.
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Hi, Bauer. I honor those we have lost too soon by helping animals in need. I make monetary donations in their name to shelters, which are always cash-strapped. I make food donations to pet pantries. Things like that. I would volunteer my time, but I don't think I would do too well with homeless animals. It would be way too sad.
So...I do what I can, in memory of the lost.
Did your SO have a particular cause that he embraced, like Wounded Warriors or animal rescue? You could do something for them, in honor of your love.
So...I do what I can, in memory of the lost.
Did your SO have a particular cause that he embraced, like Wounded Warriors or animal rescue? You could do something for them, in honor of your love.
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Hi Maudcat, that's a great idea! My SO embraced helping out his friends and other addicts get into treatment. He had talked about maybe opening up his own treatment facility one day...so maybe I can find one in my area that accepts donations. I also love the animal shelter idea; I love animals more than most humans haha, so maybe I could start making donations under his name.
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Originally Posted by Delani
Prayers for you. So sorry for your losses. Most, if not all, churches have grief counseling. Visit a few churches, if you're up to it, and see if you feel a connection with any of them.
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